Does Age Matter

lol, i guess you can say only that long, i'm still not quite over things i guess. i keep hoping that she'll be over soon. I tried to give her everything she wanted, when she went to uni all she wanted was to be single

waw that is harsh she seemed to be realy into you man. :( well maybe after uni she might come back?

Maybe, i know i would love for that to happen, but she's already said not to blame myself, i wanted more and she wanted less. gah if i get any worse i'll be writing bad poetry and crying into my fringe

ok man i get it it's a shame though you two seemed right for each other ill stop now.

We were, we were perfect. lol i'm not actually going to emo out or something, i just get sad dwelling on it. but hey who know what the future holds, we stayed in touch so not like i've lost her from my life entirely.

well thats good to hear at least?

"Staying friends" isn't always the best choice, as they say.

A final clear cut might be much better. Bidding eachother farewell and avoiding her and common memories as good as possible could turn out to be much more healthy for you.

you mean like in the way its best o get rid of a dead loved ones posesions as they only serve to bring back emotions that will harm your well being kind of forget?

i'm not sure i'm ready for that yet. i'm going to see how the next few weeks go before losing someone

just do whot you think is best for you thats all i can say

this proves that having a relationship with someone whose age is that far is hard...

they have different goals and priorities in front of them...
youngsters (college age,about 18-24) tends to want some "excitement" and "freedom" in their life,while older people (working age,25-30ish)usually want to "settle down" and "stabilize things up"

it's not that i'm saying that 12 years is an impossible barrier for anybody to have a relationship,but if your priorities in life is different,something like this is bound to happen.

but then again,it's all down to those who choose to have this kind of relationship.oh,and one thing,sorry for the late post,because now that it's happened,this is of no use anymore.

but i hope this could be a lesson for the rest of us.

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agree with aznstoner,maturity is a huge factor.

The way to work out an age gap relationship is to make sure the two have the same level of maturity. Either the older one acts as wild as the younger, or the younger is as refined as the older. That doesn't imply that the young one can't indulge in what young people do and vice-versa, but the relationship has to keep into account that each person has to be on the same level the majority of the time.

A very wise post. I have to concur with it.

yea id say that is about right if it were much differant within the relationship it would just be complete opposites comming together just for the physical attraction and those sorts of relationships don't last.
and i concur very wise posting from you sir :D

Indeed. I couldn't have said it better myself. They don't have to be doppelgangers in any way, but having similiar levels of maturity, receptiveness and adaptability to react/respond to each other and others around them as a couple does wonders to add value to the relationship. Their temperaments, outlook and shared values in life would have to complement each other as well; in order to enjoy and sustain the relationship. You guys have my fondest respect for being able to see that. :D

No I think love is for most ages but it does tend to get awkard if the person you love or loves you is older or younger but what the heck who cares just go through with it ^.^ some things are better than others.

Why the HECK would you bump a thread that's from 2008?!?!