Spanking kids cause long term harm?
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xed0 wrote...
Spare the rod, spoil the child.Abuse the rod, shatter the child.
Thus, the perfect balance must be found.
Perhaps, rather than spanking the child right away, approach them, explain why you are spanking them, then spank them.
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If spanking is done correctly and properly at the correct time then the child will grow up with a sense of right or wrong and will understand basic respect for others throughout his/her life, However a major problem is that parents are either too scared to spank their kids or they take it too far and smack them for any reason even things like say "not finishing their vegetable" which can have the opposite effect and can lead to a troubled adulthood in some cases
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Akagitsune84 wrote...
If spanking is done correctly and properly at the correct time then the child will grow up with a sense of right or wrong and will understand basic respect for others throughout his/her life, However a major problem is that parents are either too scared to spank their kids or they take it too far and smack them for any reason even things like say "not finishing their vegetable" which can have the opposite effect and can lead to a troubled adulthood in some cases Right on. Problem is society claims we live in a society that is very different and new however history repeats itself and there is nothing that is new that is under the sun. So what I am getting at is that children have to know the difference from punishement for their own good and PUNISHMENT which in my opinion is when the parent crosses the line or takes drastic measures to discipline a child.
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dragonsheart967 wrote...
Don't really see the need to spank a child. I see it as a form of venting for the parent. Like they get so frusterated, they take it out on the child in a physical manner, and this in turn allows the child to see it as a sevier punishment. Pretty much, it's making the child fear doing anything bad, and not letting them know what they did was bad and why.My brother puts his kids in 'timeout', and it's a pretty minor punishment, some might say, but for a child, it seems to be a matter of principle, that they realize they did something wrong. Granted, they get upset, but they do learn a lesson.
I agree with this. I definitely think parents use spanking as a way to vent when they are angry at their child. They can say that they are teaching the kid a lesson, but I think the lesson gets lost in the violence. For me, I wasn't learning not to do whatever it was my parents didn't like me doing, I was being taught to fear my parents and not make them angry. This is different from learning right from wrong.
I think corporeal punishment is the easy way out. It seems easier than coming up with a creative, and possibly more effective, way to punish the kid.
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I find a flaw with these studies. They don't do control groups, it is just a questionnaire. How about reversing these studies, do less smart kids are more likely to receive punishment, how about do kids who wind up in prison more likely cause a need to try physical discipline? This study isn't truly scientific unless it controls the groups and also include social and cultural differences. IE not the kind of money usually spent on this.
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FinalBoss
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pspkiller626 wrote...
Spare the rod and spoil the child. Children/Students nowadays can misbehave all they want and never have a scratch laid on them. In the end, kids like them become worthless and undisciplined. We live in a harsh world, and if you're not disciplined, you will come to a dead end in no time. And all because you did not know right or wrong.Asian children are usually punished for misbehavior by physical punishment, and as a result they have a better temperament when compared to Western students. While Westerners usually look down upon the 'Asian', you have to admit, Asian students have better manners and a more advanced level of thinking.
Spanking (or any other form of physical punishment) defines right or wrong to a kid. They are made known that wrongdoing will be punished and that anything right is good. The way I see it, a child's parents are blacksmiths and the child is an unfinished sword. The more physical punishment the child receives the sharper the sword becomes. And the sharper you are, the higher the chance that you will cleave yourway through life without problems.
My parents used to punish me physically so I do know what I'm talking about.
African Americans are known for beating their kids too, but it doesn't seem to affect their moral values as they get older. My mom would beat me when I did something wrong while my dad would lecture me. I got more out of my dad's lectures than my mom's beatings, and I turned out a better person.
