Wondering About Virginity

Virgin as well. I don't deny it. I am open for that fact cus I need to find someone someday. With no friends and many failures it really hurts. Too much for me now. With my dad passed away and mom getting old. I have to take care of myself somehow. I don't accept defeat. My resolve will move on.

Exactly^_^ she wasn't a virgin though so I was nervous u know size wise and like if I could pleasure her but like she was nervous to cause it was my first time and in the end it was special and let's just say I did a good job ;D lol

I have actually started to think in totally different way. Yeah, the idea of being the only sex partner your partner has ever had and (maybe) will ever have can be nice. BUT if a person only has sex with one partner, how can she/he know if the sex she [size=10](example person will now be a girl)[/h] gets from her only partner ever is actually good. There's a high possibility that questions will arise "this feels good, but I wonder what other people feel like. Is my partner actually good, or do I just think that way because I dont have anything to compare it to?" and stuff like that.
But if that person has had sex before, she doesnt have to think about things like that.

Also, virginity has never been an important thing to me. Ofcourse it should be lost with a person you trust and so on, but sex should always be done with a person you can trust. And think about it: the first time with your partner, everything is just the way you 2 like it, nice music, some romance, some really good feeling foreplay and then the guy enters a girl. Blood. Blood everywhere. I know that some people have fetishes for that, but thinking about having a first time like that makes me shudder. I'm just glad my hymen had already been broken before my first time with a dude.

But what is more important to me is the first time with a new partner, especially if its a boy/girlfriend. It has nothing to do with virginity, but the first time with a new partner can strongly affect the future sex life with that person

when I lost mine... it didn't mean anything to me
I don't have feelings for her, nor she to me..people told me growing up I'd get more confidence from losing it and I've not gotten a damn thing, except to say I had sex, which I guess is something if I am trying to feel included in conversations

I honestly don't see anything with this outcome, especially since 8/10 of the people I've spoken to said that the first time sucked (..that was a happy accident). And they were with people they actually cared about. I'm not bothered if my first time is like this (which is likely) or with someone I care about.




Some people gain confidence, some don't. I think the only time people gain confidence is during these conversations. It gives a person their long awaited bragging rights.

I don't know what peoples obsession with virginity is. It isn't just now, back through history virgins have been focused on. Virgins are the embodiment of purity, Sacrifice a virgin to please god, sacrifice a virgin so the dragon/beast/demon won't kill us all, virgins can't die in horror movies, your verginity is special, keep it. I don't actually know why it's so highly regarded. Although with the quotes being posted here, I guess I'm the only one who sees it this way.

I am in no way trying to discredit your feeling of intimacy when with your girlfriend, but I try to see everything in two ways. My cynical view on this would be that the mutualism and emotional intensity felt between a person and his confidant in today's society are only derived from the notion that the actions conform to the moral standards. Thus, the satisfaction felt isn't purely attributed to the fact that a person is with his "special someone".

Note that I said "should" as in it doesn't purely pertain to just the sole fact of being with a special someone, it just does for the general populace due to the intimacy, it's inarguable that sex feels good regardless (with consent of course).

Kids these day dont seem to care anymore.
They just use it and lose it.
Its a shame really.

Love and sex comes hand in hand I think.
Sex would be the highlights and love would be what connects a couple in the long run.

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I am against those who value virginity for it's pureness and such because I think that's bullshit. In many languages virginity literally translates purity - I think it's a horrible concept to judge people's worth just by whether they've had sex or not. Especially with girls, those who feel pressured to remain virgin until they are married are succumbing to social, cultural and religious pressure that's been opposed by feminists for centuries. And if your husband think you're a dirty slut for having had sex (even when he's not a virgin himself) now that's just being sexist and controlling - I would not want to marry someone who has no respect for me, my self value is much higher than that. It's the same with feeling guilt from sex, sex is dirty blah blah, yes it is!! but so is religious corruption, evil intentions and lots of other stuff!! people shouldn't have to feel that if they have sex for the physical pleasure or for love - these are pure feelings!! of course there are many people who abuse sex but everything can be abused, lets just all get back to the beautiful and innocent essence of sex, love and pleasure.

I lost my virginity to an ex (also virgin) who used to be my best friend throughout most of high school, and I do have to admit that at the time, I thought it was nice. But the sex itself was awkward as fuck, and I ended up faking an orgasm.

However, now that I'm with my almost-fiancé, I wish I could have given him my virginity instead.

I think that virginity is more of an issue for females, rather than males. No one really looks down on a man that has had sex before marriage. And honestly, I like the fact that my boyfriend has (lots of) prior experience, because....well, honestly, I'm clueless when it comes to the actual act of sex. The fact that he knows what he's doing makes him more confident in himself, which I find quite attractive and arousing. lol.

It's really just a double standard, because if a woman were to have a lot of experience under her belt, quite frankly, it's unattractive.

I dunno, I think I'm kinda going in circles now.

To me, I actually prefer people with experience - both men and women. It just makes things simpler and more pleasurable both ways I think. PS, prefer, of course I dont mind if the person is a virgin or not.

odd enough 2 of my ex-bfs were virgins, hell one of them didnt even knew how to kiss properly. but thanks to my proper and superior tutelage he has become really good at it now

I've done it with someone who has done it with a ton of people already, you would expect that this person would have insane standards but, he was actually happy and satisfied even with simple things.

but of course everyone is still different.

As someone who's still a virgin, I have the firm believe of "making it count," meaning, I'd like to save it for someone I truly care about (not even talking about marriage or any of that religious nonsense), rather than just losing it for the sake of losing it. If the person I care about is more experienced, then great, I get to learn something, if not, then we can learn something together.

You only have one appendix, when it's gone, it's gone. Does that make it important?

Appendix don't serve any purpose virginity holds merit.

I do find it ridiculous to wait for marriage to do it, I mean for one, you would marry someone without even trying to have sex with this person first? Waiting for someone that you do love is different though, of course that makes sense to me.

One thing I will say is good about a virgin, they have never done it ever so they really arent that hard to please and the expectations are almost nil, since theyve no one to compare you to. that is if youre feeling insecure yourself, it works.

One bad thing is, sometimes they just really are clueless on how to do it. they know where to put their cock on but not really do it in a fun way for hte one receiving it?

One flip side of experience though, on some, it raises the bar sorta on what 'ideal' is to the person.

I do hate it people who have been so single for too long that they find it hard to adjust and function in a duo? instead of doing it as a team its free for all and communication suffers too.

again, this still depends on the person. some virgins act like theyre pros. while some whove been on it for soooo long now are just naturally bad.

I agree with PublicRed. it is ridiculous to wait, i lost mine at 15.
Well ok maybe i am not the pure little girl my mother wanted or the little lesbian my brother wanted (yes i heard that from my brother cause that way no one will screw his sister (he doesn't know about futa))but I had seen married couples divorce or cheat just cause the sex isn't good and i thought why should i have waited for the prince when i couldn't pleasure him and thus flush virginity.
Isn't that the other purpose of sex ? give and receive pleasure

ive talked to a lot of married people who cheated on their lovers coz the sex was just SOOO ungodly horrible. like 2 times in 1 year???!!!! that is absurd! It doesnt justify the act of course but the point is, people keep on looking away from sex like its a horrible thing. just face the music its an important 'part' of a relationship. like they get ashamed to want it, and they get battered down by people for it ... society can be so full of bs sometimes you know

2 times a year ?! i will sew it up and be a nun !

Sex is a "horrible" thing from a religion point of view (btw i am an atheist) It's the raw need we have to end our loneliness drawn it down with another body. since society like to appear noble we hide those feelings in the closet and suppress until they go boom !
if u ask me none of them are ready to deal with it, if i had a daughter i will not be able to deal with it :P but i will well "Have sex is good" anyway :P