Slice of Life (New Topic: Off to Tokyo)

My advice on this, don't ask again to quickly. If you ask her out again to quickly you'll just come off as needy or pushy and that probably won't go over well, don't pressure her and just enjoy your time with her for now. Staying friends can lead to feelings developing later on down the road, so it's not a bad thing. Just take some time to enjoy yourself with her and let the both of you grow a bit closer before trying again.

And if you try on her birthday, that could potentially cause more problems, especially since it's putting her on the spot and on a day most people really enjoy having be about them, if the confession comes off badly and it messes things up it could cause additional strain on your relationship with her.

So the main message from me is wait and see how things go for now, don't give up your feelings but stay open minded and if you're able coax things along in that direction but don't be to forceful. That's if you're really dead set on her obviously.

I've already provided my advices regarding what you had asked, good luck to what you decide to do in the end, my friend.

Good for you but:

I ain't a extreme stalker but I just want to be sure. I am not interested into knowing what my partner is doing in every little detail but if somehow it acts out of the ordinary I kinda cry on the inside because of that paranoia.

I usually take it as a precaution to reduce the blow. And to be frank I haven't got a girlfriend for 3-4 years... adding that is my inexperience by not having many girlfriends.

I wish you good luck in your future relationship. And we all will go / have been gone through this. Its painful but its a necessary one.

Just my 2 cents (And i have lot of cents)

[font=verdana][color=green]Well, whenever there is a rejection, unless the person who is rejecting the other is really cold, neither of them will enjoy the experience. I mean, shooting down someone's feelings towards you is never pleasant and you start to wonder if you led them on at all. Of course, I doubt that it's as painful as being rejected, not that that offers you any consolation.



[font=verdana][color=green]Well, like Kyuu said, don't ask her too soon or on her birthday. If you ask her too soon, you'll appear needy and desperate and if you ask her on her birthday, you might cause her grievance on her birthday, which I'm sure you wouldn't want.

But, at least now, she knows how you feel. If you remain friends, even though she'll try not to, she will see you in a different light. Whether this will be good or bad for you will remain to be seen, but now she knows that she likes you, she might think "So, what does he like about me?" or "Now that I think about it, I've never considered him liking me, so it was more of a surprise than anything" or anything else regarding that. Of course, you'll know more than us about her thought process.

For now, just leave it for a while until you think you're ready to ask her out again. Of course, with this time, you'll be at more risk of being hurt more, due to being rejected already.

Good luck with it, Gambler.

I must admit my laziness upfront of trying to read all the posts, so forgive me if I just end up saying what someone else has said.

I would not take lightly a girl saying that she doesn't feel any electricity/chemistry between you.

If you have been friends with her for a long time, I would say that it's probably a lost cause and you should move on to a greener pasture. By that time, she should know you well enough to know how she should feel about you in a relationship situation.

If you haven't known each other for that long or haven't gotten to know each other very much, then I would do as some of the above posters say and just give it some time before you approach her on the subject again. Sometimes it just takes girls a little time to realize their connection to someone.

It's great that you have your feelings out there already. So let that seed grow and be patient.

Good luck Mr. Bear, you're a sweetheart and you deserve to be with one ❤

Been rejected thrice.
I can't really remember how I dealt with it, I just didn't it any mind. Just take your mind off relationships as a whole honestly and focus on something else (School, work, activities, games, etc).

I've been rejected once but I wasn't too upset. In fact, I was so proud of myself for getting all my courage to ask someone out haha xD But, I have rejected people a few times before. It's not at all pleasant but it's something you have to do since you don't want to end up hurting them more when you break up with them later. Rejecting people is one of the worst thing to do. >_< All but one of those who I rejected ended up not talking to me after and it's really upsetting... T__T I'd so much rather be on the "rejected" side of things than the "rejecter". >_< The crushing guilt afterwards...arhhh! >n

If they aren't soulless then, yes, it hurts the person rejecting too. How could it not, we know we are about to hurt someone who only wants to share their hearts with us. It makes it so much more difficult to reject someone when you care about them, no feelings is one thing, but if you still care and can't reciprocate it's really hard. If she were to accept and didn't return your feelings eventually, it would end anyway, but with her resenting you and herself for even trying when it was fruitless in her eyes to even start.

Yea, dont text her, bad idea any way you look at it. If you do, you are only giving her power.

Well, I dont know about her enough. If I had seen you two interact for myself I would be able to give you a better than generic assessment, but I would not persist nor try the friendship method. That is a slow pain. I am the one who went after my current/soon-to-be-over bf. And it was friendship, fiery infatuation, turned deep love/respect, but has now simmered to friendship over the years. But there was a month after I told him my feelings, he said thank you but he continued to hold onto me tightly, trying to hang out all the time... thats false hope and I stayed anyway, but it hurt. After a month I said f*** it and told him to stay away from me so I could make the clean break. Two weeks later he was asking me out.

Persistence is a painful game, not worth it unless you're going to get the prize IMO. So I'd say no for sure there unless you can hold out there for a while... a long while. Telling him I'd cut off the friendship was the kicker for me, but I had run out of patience. Like him or not I believe in more fishing, I just happened to have a really great connection with him so I stuck around longer than I should have.

I want to say more about that watch and what it means but you'll have to tell me more. Was it after she rejected you or before?

*I gave a watch to my first boyfriend after the fact because I already bought it and had it engraved I think: he called later (for years) and told me that he was treasuring it, wearing it everyday. I did not mean anything by it, but it was expensive, engraved, and useful so I gave it to him anyway. It was a double-edged sword though. :/ Give it back.*

Give it back: This way, two birds with one stone: you don't have the burden of those mixed feelings, and she has to hold onto it until she returns it-so she has you on her mind and she can think about you longer to change her mind if she is going to. But if you give it back, just tell her you thought about it and can't accept it. Say nothing else if she asks you. ;) The mystery will also add to keeping you on her mind. :)

(Sorry about the length, I had this open to answer all day and I casually answered as I was doing other stuff. Eeep!)

Bump.... for maybe more members to give advices to Gambler, I guess?

It appears I have much to catch up on with my dear bear friend, Don't forget if you ever need a lap to rest on I shall still be here for you ^_^ (even if I can't get online much at the moment >_<)

I've been rejected three times in my short 19 years of life twice my the same girl lol. First one I was interested in and asked out on curiosity to see if I had a chance. Didn't, so I left things as they were. Well this second girl caught my eye the first time I saw her. Did my best to court her but was too nervous. After summer and working out lol I tried my chance but I was too late as she had lost interest =A=. I was deeply sad and disappointed in myself rather than her. But later this gave me confidence, she was interested what says that she won't be again? So I tried my hand at courting her again, finally asking her out. This time however, she went with the " I see you as a friend" excuse. This pissed me off since she gave those signs of interest so I thought I had a chance. I got over this hanging out with a bunch of guys and drown out the sadness with some good times. Gotta say some bro talk also help. GUYS ITS OK TO TALK ABOUT UR FEELINGS BUT DONT BE A BABY ABOUT IT :D

d'awww...that must be painful though~): being around the person who rejected you...... *consoles the bear!* Oh man...you still want her...hnn. Well yep the only route you can take now is the friendly route but dont be too quick to jump into asking her out again like papa kyuubi said~>.>.

It has been exactly a week since my rejection and I still feel miserable. Life seems a lot less colourful and I no longer have appetite for much food. Furthermore, whenever I think of her, I feel aching in my heart and my stomach tends to churn.

As mentioned previously, I have decided to try again. I know I shouldn't text her as often these days, but like a drug, I am unable to help myself. She rarely replies, sometimes not at all, which causes my imagination to run wild further.



Thank you for your concern. Unfortunately, stress at work isn't helping my situation nor mental state.



I believe I am already dead set on her. :(



I will be praying hard for the both of us to be successful in our pursuit of romance.



You have been a great help. I will definitely be sending everyone a PM soon.



I have only known her for about a year and we have only gone out on 3-4 occasions. I suppose that might have been the problem - confessing too early.

Nonetheless, thank you for your kind words and support too.



I will attempt to concentrate on work and Japanese class, but there are times when thoughts of her will suddenly appear in my mind.



I have never rejected anyone previously, but I really feel that no one should be allowed to go through such painful emotions, especially if they are sincere.



I really like your long replies even though we don't know each other that well. They help to keep my mind occupied.

The watch was given to me earlier in the day, before I confessed to her. I guess I shouldn't read too deeply into the gift.



I know you have your own problems to worry about and I shouldn't add on to your burden. We will chat when the opportunity arise.



From your post, I believe you had your fair share of painful experiences too.



I always tell others that patience is a virtue, but to a certain extent, I must admit I am not practising what I am preaching. :(

Isn't there anything you can do to take your mind off of this?
I've always said to myself that a woman isn't worth getting so miserable over.

[size=12]hi gambler~ i just wanted to see how you've been doing. :c are you feeling any better as of late?[/h]

Bump.

Yay! Gambler's account is fixed again! He's back! :D

Thank you for the advice and concern everyone has shown me after I got rejected. Now that I am feeling better, it is time for a new topic! :)

Although this new topic is somewhat similar to the previous "Salary and Allowances", I am now asking about items which you are unable to resist buying upon having knowledge of its existence.

How did I come up with such a topic? To tell the truth, I recently realized that a local bookstore had brought in limited copies of the magazine entitled "G's Festival Comic". This particular issue was bundled with a dakimakura cover featuring Momoyo from Majikoi. Although there was some damage to my wallet and bank account, I simply felt I had to make a purchase, rather than regret at a later point in time

Has anyone else encountered such a similar situation? It could be limited edition CDs, DVDs, clothes, figurines, etc... in fact, anything under the sun!

The following would be the cover of the magazine, courtesy of amazon.co.jp:

[size=12]glad to see you back, gambler! -hugs- instead of dwelling on the former topic, i will instead talk about your new one. :D

although it's fairly surprising to people i've met IRL, there's this sanrio character that i am absolutely in love with. any time someone calls her hello kitty i can't help but frown in disapproval, lol. her name is my melody and she's a sweet little bunny who lives in the forest of mari land with her friends and family. despite my tendencies to spend all of my money on other people, my melody merchandise is one thing i can't resist for myself. OTL

i have colouring books of her, plushies, an apron, oven mitts, pencils, stickers, stationary, small toys, an mp3 player, a hairclip, and small charms to make necklaces/bracelets with. despite all of this i don't have a lot in my opinion. xD most of the stuff i have is imported from hong kong but she's slowly showing up over in america so i pick up a few things when i see them.

i actually took a picture a while back of all of my stuff of her, i could find it later if you're actually interested in my weirdness. xD

Momoyo...

*drools*

Ahem...well, if it were me, it would probably be some sort of music instrument. I can't seem to think of any at the mom-WAIT I GOT IT! Last year, I found that a biography had been published about my all-time musical idol, Cliff Burton. I'm still trying my best to find it. I MUST HAVE IT!