Slice of Life (New Topic: Off to Tokyo)
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Just feel proud of yourself, Bear.
At least, you were able to express your feeling to her; It's much better than never trying at all.
There is no such thing as "grown men shouldn't cry", if you think you need to release it, then do it; "just do what you think is right and you feel the need to do". Your sudden loss of motivation is only a temporary after-effect, it will be gone soon enough. Just think of it as a life-lesson. It doesn't mean you won't be able to find better ones sooner or later, just do your best and look forward; You will always have my support.
OT,
I never got rejected before, but my first love accept me because she only wanted to know the feeling to have a lover, she has no special feeling for me at all; It's only to satisfy her curiosity. That makes me think even rejection is much better than this.
Bla bla, relationship ends soon enough because I asked her to just end this "empty" relationship. Well, I was very depressed, I always tried to gain her attention, and I really wanted her to smile when being with me, but all is shattered because of my confession. Our relation never be the same anymore after that.
I take that as a lesson, and I decided to just move forward since I have my own dreams to fulfill; I didn't/don't want it to be interrupted by a silly love matter.
It's not worthy enough.
At least, you were able to express your feeling to her; It's much better than never trying at all.
There is no such thing as "grown men shouldn't cry", if you think you need to release it, then do it; "just do what you think is right and you feel the need to do". Your sudden loss of motivation is only a temporary after-effect, it will be gone soon enough. Just think of it as a life-lesson. It doesn't mean you won't be able to find better ones sooner or later, just do your best and look forward; You will always have my support.
OT,
I never got rejected before, but my first love accept me because she only wanted to know the feeling to have a lover, she has no special feeling for me at all; It's only to satisfy her curiosity. That makes me think even rejection is much better than this.
Bla bla, relationship ends soon enough because I asked her to just end this "empty" relationship. Well, I was very depressed, I always tried to gain her attention, and I really wanted her to smile when being with me, but all is shattered because of my confession. Our relation never be the same anymore after that.
I take that as a lesson, and I decided to just move forward since I have my own dreams to fulfill; I didn't/don't want it to be interrupted by a silly love matter.
It's not worthy enough.
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[size=12]wow, i cannot believe i didn't post in this thread before! mind if i pop in here sometimes, gambler?
on topic, though, i'm really sorry to hear about what happened. like mitsu said, you're a gentleman and a great guy, in my opinion. the "no electricity/spark" thing has never made sense to me, so i can't really give any input on that. :c
i've very rarely confessed to anyone, since even the thought of it makes me feel faint, haha. but the few times i did, i was rejected a few, yes. it's depressing, it's hurtful, it made me loathe on myself. "what's wrong with me?" i felt inferior to their standards, whatever they were.
but you have to remember that that's not true. you have to accept that you're going to be hurt; don't fight it, don't brush it off. like mibu said, just live with it for now. grow from it. c: i know it's cliche to say, but things will get better in time, your heart will heal and you'll like someone again. telling her was a good decision, feel proud that you could go through with it. good luck~[/h]
on topic, though, i'm really sorry to hear about what happened. like mitsu said, you're a gentleman and a great guy, in my opinion. the "no electricity/spark" thing has never made sense to me, so i can't really give any input on that. :c
i've very rarely confessed to anyone, since even the thought of it makes me feel faint, haha. but the few times i did, i was rejected a few, yes. it's depressing, it's hurtful, it made me loathe on myself. "what's wrong with me?" i felt inferior to their standards, whatever they were.
but you have to remember that that's not true. you have to accept that you're going to be hurt; don't fight it, don't brush it off. like mibu said, just live with it for now. grow from it. c: i know it's cliche to say, but things will get better in time, your heart will heal and you'll like someone again. telling her was a good decision, feel proud that you could go through with it. good luck~[/h]
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Dr Shaneman wrote...
Sorry to hear that Gambler.You're a true gentleman in my eyes so I'm surprised to read this.
As for the question, I've never asked a girl out before so I do not know what rejection feels like.
Thank you for your kind words.
I suppose feelings for another party cannot be forced, but it makes me feel a little helpless. No matter how hard one tries, it is to no avail.
mibuchiha wrote...
My first confession ended with her slapping me. I didn't try to overcome it, I just lived on with the feelings that you're feeling now. Luckily my cousin was there to cheer me up so I didn't take too long to be all okay again. I'd say just live with it man, time pass and you'll be all good to hunt for another chick.
As for the rejection itself, I think you did well. It's better than to regret having never tried. She rejected you and there's nothing you can do about it. It's her choice, what mattered is that you tried.
Sounds like you have also experienced rejection previously. Is there any way science can explain why things turn out in such a manner? Can science help us feel better?
As mentioned previously, I know it is definitely better to try than to regret not doing so later, but I just can't help experiencing these negative emotions. T_T
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menolly-hime wrote...
[size=12]the "no electricity/spark" thing has never made sense to me[/h]I have to agree with this.
I think one thing that stops me talking to girls is fear of rejection.
I would not know how to cope with it since I'm the type who gets easily upset and I don't have any friends around to fall back on for that either.
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Old - Jenkins wrote...
Just feel proud of yourself, Bear. At least, you were able to express your feeling to her; It's much better than never trying at all.
There is no such thing as "grown men shouldn't cry", if you think you need to release it, then do it; "just do what you think is right and you feel the need to do". Your sudden loss of motivation is only a temporary after-effect, it will be gone soon enough. Just think of it a life-lesson. It doesn't mean you won't be able to find better ones sooner or later, just do your best and look forward; You will always have my support.
OT,
I never got rejected before, but my first love accept me because she only wanted to know the feeling to have a lover, she has no special feeling for me at all; It's only to satisfy her curiosity. That makes me think even rejection is much better than this.
Bla bla, relationship ends soon enough because I asked her to just end this "empty" relationship. Well, I was very depressed, I always tried to gain her attention, and I really wanted her to smile when being with me, but all is shattered because of my confession. Our relation never be the same anymore after that.
I take that as a lesson, and I decided to just move forward since I have my own dreams to fulfill; I didn't/don't want it to be interrupted by a silly love matter.
It's not worthy enough.
Thank you for your support all this time Jen.
You are right; I do feel like crying and will most probably do so soon after. The tears are already welling up. More importantly, the most difficult hurdle right now would be to pick myself up, isn't it?
I see you have experienced your share of heartbreak previously too. Thankfully, you have gotten over it.
menolly-hime wrote...
[size=12]wow, i cannot believe i didn't post in this thread before! mind if i pop in here sometimes, gambler?on topic, though, i'm really sorry to hear about what happened. like mitsu said, you're a gentleman and a great guy, in my opinion. the "no electricity/spark" thing has never made sense to me, so i can't really give any input on that. :c
i've very rarely confessed to anyone, since even the thought of it makes me feel faint, haha. but the few times i did, i was rejected a few, yes. it's depressing, it's hurtful, it made me loathe on myself. "what's wrong with me?" i felt inferior to their standards, whatever they were.
but you have to remember that that's not true. you have to accept that you're going to be hurt; don't fight it, don't brush it off. like mibu said, just live with it for now. grow from it. c: i know it's cliche to say, but things will get better in time, your heart will heal and you'll like someone again. telling her was a good decision, feel proud that you could go through with it. good luck~[/h]
Of course, your presence is welcomed in this thread, though I may not be in my usual cheery mood.
Maybe the "no electricity" reason is just an excuse for the girl to reject me politely.
Exactly. The feeling of rejection is extremely depressing. It makes me wonder why I am unable to meet their expectations. Furthermore, unlike other aspects of life, we may not be given a second opportunity to prove ourselves.
Likewise, thank you for your concern. I hope that with the support of everyone, I should be back to my usual self... soon.
Dr Shaneman wrote...
I have to agree with this.
I think one thing that stops me talking to girls is fear of rejection.
I would not know how to cope with it since I'm the type who gets easily upset and I don't have any friends around to fall back on for that either.
To a certain extent, we may be similar in the sentimental aspect.
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mibuchiha
Fakku Elder
Gambler wrote...
Sounds like you have also experienced rejection previously. Is there any way science can explain why things turn out in such a manner? Can science help us feel better?As mentioned previously, I know it is definitely better to try than to regret not doing so later, but I just can't help experiencing these negative emotions. T_T
Lolnope. Science is a different kind of fun. And it can probably explain the events, given years of progress and insanely complicated calculations, but I doubt you'd want it. =3
And yes, I've experienced rejection. Been on both sides of it and to me, it feels terrible regardless of which role I have to take.
Also yeah, no electricity lolwut. Then again I'd feel saaaaaaaaaaffffeeee if that's her reason for rejecting me. I dont think I want to live with that kind of girl lol.
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Gambler wrote...
Thank you for your support all this time Jen. You are right; I do feel like crying and will most probably do so soon after. The tears are already welling up. More importantly, the most difficult hurdle right now would be to pick myself up, isn't it?
I see you have experienced your share of heartbreak previously too. Thankfully, you have gotten over it.
It's always my pleasure.
Just cry if you think it can make you feel better; Don't worry, it won't make you "less-man". You are a "man" if you can stand again with or without anybody's help, and move forward after experienced such hardships. You will find yourself as a better person if you can stand properly.
Your own route is not only one, it's up to you to decide which route will you take, for the better or for the worse.
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Hey all...
Well I am a sucker in love because I am the one who gets his hearth thorn up. Every time I try it feels that I lack something...
And I think I'm becoming a stalker because I have a slight paranoia.
Well I am a sucker in love because I am the one who gets his hearth thorn up. Every time I try it feels that I lack something...
And I think I'm becoming a stalker because I have a slight paranoia.
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Appropriate pic time...
But I'm sorry to hear that, Gambler. I know from experience that the only cure for that is time and being with friends who support you. I don't have time, but I'm here for kitteh hugs whenever you need them!
But I'm sorry to hear that, Gambler. I know from experience that the only cure for that is time and being with friends who support you. I don't have time, but I'm here for kitteh hugs whenever you need them!
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A big thank you to everyone who posted this very night. I may not be able to give out bear hugs right now, but I hope to be able to overcome the rejection and be back to my usual self... soon.
Off to sleep, partly to escape from this miserable feeling.
Off to sleep, partly to escape from this miserable feeling.
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Cinia Pacifica
Ojou-sama Writer
I cannot contribute to the topic as its about rejection... but;
Its sad to hear about the rejection, I hope you're able to move on soon and find another girl who you'd like.
Its sad to hear about the rejection, I hope you're able to move on soon and find another girl who you'd like.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
I'll admit. I have never really faced any sort of rejection, but it's probably because I've never tried. Granted, when I think back to my 10th grade crush, letting her know how I felt about her would have at least taken a huge load off my mind, regardless of how painful the rejection would have felt. Now, even though I'm over her, I can't help but think "what if?" sometimes. That's life I guess.
And sorry to hear about your rejection, Gambler. Remember, we're all here if you need us. Now, come here and gimme a hug. :)
And sorry to hear about your rejection, Gambler. Remember, we're all here if you need us. Now, come here and gimme a hug. :)
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Gambler wrote...
For those of you who remember, I have been going after a girl whom I first met in my Japanese class. After going out with her today, I finally mustered enough courage to confess my feelings to her.Unfortunately, after reading my letter and poem (yes, I know its kinda old-fashioned), I was rejected. I wouldn't say I am not disappointed; in fact, I feel demoralized with no motivation to do anything. Deep down, I really hoped that she would give me an opportunity, but "no electricity" is the reason cited by her, so I suppose it is difficult to proceed further.
I told myself my main aim would be to confess rather than regret not doing so in the future. Still, I am unable to overcome these emotions of disappointment and sadness.
Some people say grown men shouldn't cry, but I really feel like doing so right now...
Have you people ever been rejected previously and how did you overcome this difficult period?
I am sorry for you Gambler.
It´s ok to feel sad/disappointed about that, but trust me don´t hang yourself over that. You made your try, that´s better then being quiet and hoping for the good.
Just look forward, I know it´s easier said than done.
I know that on my own, I got rejected often and it made me sad, but I thought "Why should I waste my time in being sad for someone who doesn´t wants me." This thought made me look forward and after some time I found my very first girlfriend.
Don´t destroy yourself with those feelings. Forget what happen and look forward. Next time you will do it better.
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[font=verdana][color=green]Well...sorry to hear about the rejection Gambler but, as has already been said, the reason of "no electricity" is very wholly. I mean, what the hell does that even mean? I'm sure you'll be back to your chipper and bear-huggy self in no time!
But, OT, I've never been rejected but I have rejected someone unfortunately. Simply put, I just didn't reciprocate their feelings, so going out with them would have resulted in more pain for them in the end. It wasn't a pleasant experience, but it was something that I had to do.
But, OT, I've never been rejected but I have rejected someone unfortunately. Simply put, I just didn't reciprocate their feelings, so going out with them would have resulted in more pain for them in the end. It wasn't a pleasant experience, but it was something that I had to do.
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well,i never got any rejection because the first one was she confessed to me and the 2nd time was my successful confession.after that,most of the time was kinda a one sided crush.
but for some reason,my friends always consulate their love life problems to me.the one that has most time was one of my best friend back in high school.he was so in love with our classmate but he's so freakin chicken to her.i kept gave him some advice until i slap some sense to him and say "aww..geez.JUST BE A MAN AND DO IT! you're really love her,don'tcha? then you better give her your best or you'll sorry ass will regret it for the rest of your life!" to him.
the result,he's been together with her and got engaged now.even though those two sometimes still like to talk about their partner's problem with me.lol.
my other best friend was a bit playboy.he can casually talk to women normally but kinda like to tease them and sometimes realized those women are falling to him.he can be a pain in the ass but i've straighten him up and now....he's dating an 18 year old high schooler.
i'm kinda jealous at him./clench.
but there's another guy and he's the type that likes to go clubbing and crazy for cars(the typical metropolitan guy). we became friends when we were in japanese language school 3 years ago.we were the exact opposite of the coin but somehow we like to go crazy together in the street.
he actually have a really beautiful GF but he's a bit douche because he wanted to find a japanese GF(which kinda the same for me but i'm single)in tokyo.after getting tired he always said the same thing,i say to him that he should treasure your GF because you're already lucky enough to have such loyal and beautiful GF that wants you.
after he goes back to my home country,he's working in one of villas in bali living together with his GF.hope his relationship last long.
*sigh*.but sometimes after a long time not having a relationship,i do want a GF too.so jealous to those happy couples.*sigh*
but for some reason,my friends always consulate their love life problems to me.the one that has most time was one of my best friend back in high school.he was so in love with our classmate but he's so freakin chicken to her.i kept gave him some advice until i slap some sense to him and say "aww..geez.JUST BE A MAN AND DO IT! you're really love her,don'tcha? then you better give her your best or you'll sorry ass will regret it for the rest of your life!" to him.
the result,he's been together with her and got engaged now.even though those two sometimes still like to talk about their partner's problem with me.lol.
my other best friend was a bit playboy.he can casually talk to women normally but kinda like to tease them and sometimes realized those women are falling to him.he can be a pain in the ass but i've straighten him up and now....he's dating an 18 year old high schooler.
i'm kinda jealous at him./clench.
but there's another guy and he's the type that likes to go clubbing and crazy for cars(the typical metropolitan guy). we became friends when we were in japanese language school 3 years ago.we were the exact opposite of the coin but somehow we like to go crazy together in the street.
he actually have a really beautiful GF but he's a bit douche because he wanted to find a japanese GF(which kinda the same for me but i'm single)in tokyo.after getting tired he always said the same thing,i say to him that he should treasure your GF because you're already lucky enough to have such loyal and beautiful GF that wants you.
after he goes back to my home country,he's working in one of villas in bali living together with his GF.hope his relationship last long.
*sigh*.but sometimes after a long time not having a relationship,i do want a GF too.so jealous to those happy couples.*sigh*
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GreenZero
Get Jinxed
Sorry to hear that you got rejected Gambler, and "grown men shouldn't cry" is bullshit. It's good to cry when you feel like it, get it out.
OT: I have myself never been rejected, because I've only really confessed to someone once and that time it went well, for about a month, then she broke up. The reason I've haven't confessed more times is because I've never really met anyone I've felt like confessing to.
OT: I have myself never been rejected, because I've only really confessed to someone once and that time it went well, for about a month, then she broke up. The reason I've haven't confessed more times is because I've never really met anyone I've felt like confessing to.
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Hello there Gambler,
I havent talked with you yet but I see nothing but respect for you in the threads so I just wanted to say hi and add to this topic if I may. :)
Firstly, I am sorry for your rejection.
I have not personally experienced rejection in love because I was the one rejecting although it has hurt me too.
I do have experience being rejected in other parts of life though such as friendship and career/work. While the latter might not stick out as something obviously relevant... it sure feels like it to me. So I can understand the deep hurt and feelings you might be going through I believe.
The best methods/ideas that I can offer in the love department, based on other experiences and from friends, are to either:
1. Pursue your love anyway. Love just needs persistence sometimes. I rejected my first boyfriend..... many times to the point where I just said, "Alright, what the hell." It was only.... several months long but he was a great guy... just wasn't a great time in my life to have him around. I like to do the tough things by myself. :) However, seeing as she said "no electricity," I wouldn't go with this unless you are feeling strong enough to handle a lot more rejection before the possibility of a yes. It is not for the feint-hearted.
2. To pursue a new love quickly. I personally don't think dwelling on anything painful is very good for you. Go through it, take it in, and try to let it quickly so you can push through it faster. And if there are days it hurts so much you cant seem to move... those are the days you lock yourself up to cry about it and release the tension. But I wouldn't dwell, there are a lot of people in the world. A new love could be just around the corner! One girl/boy/woman/man should never be allowed to crush your spirit like that. Have some confidence and fall in love again, learning from it each time. Maybe you could ask her (when you're ready) what exactly gives off this mysterious "no electricity" thing so you can change it. Because as a woman, it just sounds like an easy excuse to me, but I dont know her either. :) Who am I to judge?
I havent talked with you yet but I see nothing but respect for you in the threads so I just wanted to say hi and add to this topic if I may. :)
Firstly, I am sorry for your rejection.
I have not personally experienced rejection in love because I was the one rejecting although it has hurt me too.
I do have experience being rejected in other parts of life though such as friendship and career/work. While the latter might not stick out as something obviously relevant... it sure feels like it to me. So I can understand the deep hurt and feelings you might be going through I believe.
The best methods/ideas that I can offer in the love department, based on other experiences and from friends, are to either:
1. Pursue your love anyway. Love just needs persistence sometimes. I rejected my first boyfriend..... many times to the point where I just said, "Alright, what the hell." It was only.... several months long but he was a great guy... just wasn't a great time in my life to have him around. I like to do the tough things by myself. :) However, seeing as she said "no electricity," I wouldn't go with this unless you are feeling strong enough to handle a lot more rejection before the possibility of a yes. It is not for the feint-hearted.
2. To pursue a new love quickly. I personally don't think dwelling on anything painful is very good for you. Go through it, take it in, and try to let it quickly so you can push through it faster. And if there are days it hurts so much you cant seem to move... those are the days you lock yourself up to cry about it and release the tension. But I wouldn't dwell, there are a lot of people in the world. A new love could be just around the corner! One girl/boy/woman/man should never be allowed to crush your spirit like that. Have some confidence and fall in love again, learning from it each time. Maybe you could ask her (when you're ready) what exactly gives off this mysterious "no electricity" thing so you can change it. Because as a woman, it just sounds like an easy excuse to me, but I dont know her either. :) Who am I to judge?
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Still feeling down at the moment. I hope I am not whining too much nor imposing on everyone unreasonably with regards to my recent setback.
Well I am a sucker in love because I am the one who gets his hearth thorn up. Every time I try it feels that I lack something...
And I think I'm becoming a stalker because I have a slight paranoia.
I believe everyone has a certain tendency to stalk others, including myself. Thankfully, not having a facebook account prevents the stalker personality from manifesting further.
But I'm sorry to hear that, Gambler. I know from experience that the only cure for that is time and being with friends who support you. I don't have time, but I'm here for kitteh hugs whenever you need them!
Image saved. Thank you for your offer of kitten hugs. It will definitely come in handy in future.
Its sad to hear about the rejection, I hope you're able to move on soon and find another girl who you'd like.
I am sorry for you Gambler.
It´s ok to feel sad/disappointed about that, but trust me don´t hang yourself over that. You made your try, that´s better then being quiet and hoping for the good.
Just look forward, I know it´s easier said than done.
I know that on my own, I got rejected often and it made me sad, but I thought "Why should I waste my time in being sad for someone who doesn´t wants me." This thought made me look forward and after some time I found my very first girlfriend.
Don´t destroy yourself with those feelings. Forget what happen and look forward. Next time you will do it better.
@Rise-chan and Boa~: Thank you for your kind words and support too.
And sorry to hear about your rejection, Gambler. Remember, we're all here if you need us. Now, come here and gimme a hug. :)
If given an opportunity, will you tell your crush about your feelings, should you ever meet her again? After I recover from this setback, you will be receiving more hugs than you can handle... I think.
But, OT, I've never been rejected but I have rejected someone unfortunately. Simply put, I just didn't reciprocate their feelings, so going out with them would have resulted in more pain for them in the end. It wasn't a pleasant experience, but it was something that I had to do.
So I suppose the party who rejects others will also feel bad to a certain extent? I have only been on the receiving end (of rejections) so far...
*sigh*.but sometimes after a long time not having a relationship,i do want a GF too.so jealous to those happy couples.*sigh*
I know exactly how you feel. The feeling of jealousy and envy when you see other couples happily together. We do not wish for anything bad to happen to them; we only wish we could be in their shoes... even more so during Christmas and Valentine's Day, right?
OT: I have myself never been rejected, because I've only really confessed to someone once and that time it went well, for about a month, then she broke up. The reason I've haven't confessed more times is because I've never really met anyone I've felt like confessing to.
We have spoken more than a few times over PMs and MSN and I believe we understand each other quite well. Thank you for being a friend in my time of need.
I havent talked with you yet but I see nothing but respect for you in the threads so I just wanted to say hi and add to this topic if I may. :)
Firstly, I am sorry for your rejection.
I have not personally experienced rejection in love because I was the one rejecting although it has hurt me too.
I do have experience being rejected in other parts of life though such as friendship and career/work. While the latter might not stick out as something obviously relevant... it sure feels like it to me. So I can understand the deep hurt and feelings you might be going through I believe.
The best methods/ideas that I can offer in the love department, based on other experiences and from friends, are to either:
1. Pursue your love anyway. Love just needs persistence sometimes. I rejected my first boyfriend..... many times to the point where I just said, "Alright, what the hell." It was only.... several months long but he was a great guy... just wasn't a great time in my life to have him around. I like to do the tough things by myself. :) However, seeing as she said "no electricity," I wouldn't go with this unless you are feeling strong enough to handle a lot more rejection before the possibility of a yes. It is not for the feint-hearted.
2. To pursue a new love quickly. I personally don't think dwelling on anything painful is very good for you. Go through it, take it in, and try to let it quickly so you can push through it faster. And if there are days it hurts so much you cant seem to move... those are the days you lock yourself up to cry about it and release the tension. But I wouldn't dwell, there are a lot of people in the world. A new love could be just around the corner! One girl/boy/woman/man should never be allowed to crush your spirit like that. Have some confidence and fall in love again, learning from it each time. Maybe you could ask her (when you're ready) what exactly gives off this mysterious "no electricity" thing so you can change it. Because as a woman, it just sounds like an easy excuse to me, but I dont know her either. :) Who am I to judge?
Everyone is welcome to post in my topics. All opinions are welcomed on all matters, not just my current situation.
Like what I asked SamRavster, the party who rejects others may feel bad too?
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Copy and pasting from my thread in the Love, Romance and Relationship section, it is tough going through motion for the past couple of days and these negative emotions persist. I followed the advice of a friend, to refrain from contacting her over the next few days, although there are times in which I really felt like texting her.
[font=Arial Black][color=blue]After some thinking (or is it impulsiveness?), am I foolish if I intend to try harder to win her heart? Some people say I should just forget her but unfortunately, I am quite a persistent person. If so, how should I go about doing so? During our short text messages immediately after the rejection, she claims that we are still friends and I wish to ask her out during her birthday, which is coming up shortly.
When it comes to romance, hard work and effort may not necessarily lead to positive results, do they?
That being said, the following is an image of a watch she gave to me when we went out during the "Day of Rejection", as a belated birthday present.
I am happy to receive a present from her, but at the same time, it makes me sad. Ironic, isn't it?
anud wrote...
Hey all...Well I am a sucker in love because I am the one who gets his hearth thorn up. Every time I try it feels that I lack something...
And I think I'm becoming a stalker because I have a slight paranoia.
I believe everyone has a certain tendency to stalk others, including myself. Thankfully, not having a facebook account prevents the stalker personality from manifesting further.
Nekohime wrote...
But I'm sorry to hear that, Gambler. I know from experience that the only cure for that is time and being with friends who support you. I don't have time, but I'm here for kitteh hugs whenever you need them!
Image saved. Thank you for your offer of kitten hugs. It will definitely come in handy in future.
Rise-chan wrote...
I cannot contribute to the topic as its about rejection... but;Its sad to hear about the rejection, I hope you're able to move on soon and find another girl who you'd like.
Boa~ wrote...
I am sorry for you Gambler.
It´s ok to feel sad/disappointed about that, but trust me don´t hang yourself over that. You made your try, that´s better then being quiet and hoping for the good.
Just look forward, I know it´s easier said than done.
I know that on my own, I got rejected often and it made me sad, but I thought "Why should I waste my time in being sad for someone who doesn´t wants me." This thought made me look forward and after some time I found my very first girlfriend.
Don´t destroy yourself with those feelings. Forget what happen and look forward. Next time you will do it better.
@Rise-chan and Boa~: Thank you for your kind words and support too.
artcellrox wrote...
I'll admit. I have never really faced any sort of rejection, but it's probably because I've never tried. Granted, when I think back to my 10th grade crush, letting her know how I felt about her would have at least taken a huge load off my mind, regardless of how painful the rejection would have felt. Now, even though I'm over her, I can't help but think "what if?" sometimes. That's life I guess.And sorry to hear about your rejection, Gambler. Remember, we're all here if you need us. Now, come here and gimme a hug. :)
If given an opportunity, will you tell your crush about your feelings, should you ever meet her again? After I recover from this setback, you will be receiving more hugs than you can handle... I think.
SamRavster wrote...
Well...sorry to hear about the rejection Gambler but, as has already been said, the reason of "no electricity" is very wholly. I mean, what the hell does that even mean? I'm sure you'll be back to your chipper and bear-huggy self in no time! But, OT, I've never been rejected but I have rejected someone unfortunately. Simply put, I just didn't reciprocate their feelings, so going out with them would have resulted in more pain for them in the end. It wasn't a pleasant experience, but it was something that I had to do.
So I suppose the party who rejects others will also feel bad to a certain extent? I have only been on the receiving end (of rejections) so far...
FreeOtakuGhost36 wrote...
*sigh*.but sometimes after a long time not having a relationship,i do want a GF too.so jealous to those happy couples.*sigh*
I know exactly how you feel. The feeling of jealousy and envy when you see other couples happily together. We do not wish for anything bad to happen to them; we only wish we could be in their shoes... even more so during Christmas and Valentine's Day, right?
GreenZero wrote...
Sorry to hear that you got rejected Gambler, and "grown men shouldn't cry" is bullshit. It's good to cry when you feel like it, get it out.OT: I have myself never been rejected, because I've only really confessed to someone once and that time it went well, for about a month, then she broke up. The reason I've haven't confessed more times is because I've never really met anyone I've felt like confessing to.
We have spoken more than a few times over PMs and MSN and I believe we understand each other quite well. Thank you for being a friend in my time of need.
SmittenKitten wrote...
Hello there Gambler,I havent talked with you yet but I see nothing but respect for you in the threads so I just wanted to say hi and add to this topic if I may. :)
Firstly, I am sorry for your rejection.
I have not personally experienced rejection in love because I was the one rejecting although it has hurt me too.
I do have experience being rejected in other parts of life though such as friendship and career/work. While the latter might not stick out as something obviously relevant... it sure feels like it to me. So I can understand the deep hurt and feelings you might be going through I believe.
The best methods/ideas that I can offer in the love department, based on other experiences and from friends, are to either:
1. Pursue your love anyway. Love just needs persistence sometimes. I rejected my first boyfriend..... many times to the point where I just said, "Alright, what the hell." It was only.... several months long but he was a great guy... just wasn't a great time in my life to have him around. I like to do the tough things by myself. :) However, seeing as she said "no electricity," I wouldn't go with this unless you are feeling strong enough to handle a lot more rejection before the possibility of a yes. It is not for the feint-hearted.
2. To pursue a new love quickly. I personally don't think dwelling on anything painful is very good for you. Go through it, take it in, and try to let it quickly so you can push through it faster. And if there are days it hurts so much you cant seem to move... those are the days you lock yourself up to cry about it and release the tension. But I wouldn't dwell, there are a lot of people in the world. A new love could be just around the corner! One girl/boy/woman/man should never be allowed to crush your spirit like that. Have some confidence and fall in love again, learning from it each time. Maybe you could ask her (when you're ready) what exactly gives off this mysterious "no electricity" thing so you can change it. Because as a woman, it just sounds like an easy excuse to me, but I dont know her either. :) Who am I to judge?
Everyone is welcome to post in my topics. All opinions are welcomed on all matters, not just my current situation.
Like what I asked SamRavster, the party who rejects others may feel bad too?
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Copy and pasting from my thread in the Love, Romance and Relationship section, it is tough going through motion for the past couple of days and these negative emotions persist. I followed the advice of a friend, to refrain from contacting her over the next few days, although there are times in which I really felt like texting her.
[font=Arial Black][color=blue]After some thinking (or is it impulsiveness?), am I foolish if I intend to try harder to win her heart? Some people say I should just forget her but unfortunately, I am quite a persistent person. If so, how should I go about doing so? During our short text messages immediately after the rejection, she claims that we are still friends and I wish to ask her out during her birthday, which is coming up shortly.
When it comes to romance, hard work and effort may not necessarily lead to positive results, do they?
That being said, the following is an image of a watch she gave to me when we went out during the "Day of Rejection", as a belated birthday present.
Spoiler:
I am happy to receive a present from her, but at the same time, it makes me sad. Ironic, isn't it?
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
Gambler wrote...
Still feeling down at the moment. I hope I am not whining too much nor imposing on everyone unreasonably with regards to my recent setback.artcellrox wrote...
I'll admit. I have never really faced any sort of rejection, but it's probably because I've never tried. Granted, when I think back to my 10th grade crush, letting her know how I felt about her would have at least taken a huge load off my mind, regardless of how painful the rejection would have felt. Now, even though I'm over her, I can't help but think "what if?" sometimes. That's life I guess.And sorry to hear about your rejection, Gambler. Remember, we're all here if you need us. Now, come here and gimme a hug. :)
If given an opportunity, will you tell your crush about your feelings, should you ever meet her again? After I recover from this setback, you will be receiving more hugs than you can handle... I think.
Honestly? I don't think. If I did, it wouldn't be anytime soon. Probably in some reunion some decades later. I'm technically over her now. But next time I get a gut feeling about a girl, I'm gonna act on it.
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Room101
Waifu Collector
I wish there was something more to say, but I sadly lack the capacity in said area :/
Well, how "bad" the other party feels will depend on their personality...kind-hearted, emphatic people will unusually still suffer from having to turn another person down...others? Dunno to be honest.
Irony is part of life. At very least, she isn't completely indifferent about this.
I've been rejected twice, and all I can say is that no matter how much it hurts, it will always go away. At very least it did for me. Today, I don't think of those days either fondly or badly; so I'm sure you'll recover too.
Maybe find something really challenging in some of your capacities to take your mind off things?
Well, how "bad" the other party feels will depend on their personality...kind-hearted, emphatic people will unusually still suffer from having to turn another person down...others? Dunno to be honest.
Irony is part of life. At very least, she isn't completely indifferent about this.
I've been rejected twice, and all I can say is that no matter how much it hurts, it will always go away. At very least it did for me. Today, I don't think of those days either fondly or badly; so I'm sure you'll recover too.
Maybe find something really challenging in some of your capacities to take your mind off things?