How do you ask a girl out?

trust me i have considered goin a lot of times but not because of this but its the same as before i jus don't have the courage to do anything that would improve my life ..... if this is depressing anyone let me know and i'll stop

it's nice to let those kinds of things from time to time.i personally don't mind.
but really,the hardest part of a journey is the first step.
try to overcome it.

BACK to the subject

a few tips from a well seasoned guy in the matter:

DO's
-RELAX. if you get too tense and uneasy, it'll turn the girl off. Given that it's an important moment, but don't act like your life is on the line. Keep your cool.
-BE CONFIDENT. I found out the more confidence you have, the more a girl is inclined to saying yes. It ain't rocket science. Keep your head up and look in her eyes.
-SMILE. jeez, why the long face?
-KNOW THE GIRL. I mean you can't just ask a girl out of the blue. I'm serious you need to at least know her interests and her friends
-BE YOURSELF. If you aren't natural, forget it. The best way of knowing if you are natural is if you aren't asking yourself the question!!
-TELL HER WHAT YOU'RE FEELING. BE DIRECT. "I really like you and I want to go out with you", "I think we would get along great together" is waaaaayy better as opposed to "Would you want to go out with me?", "Do you like me?"

DON'Ts
-Whatever the hell you were doing with girls which lead you to clicking on the link of this topic

OK, so how do you ask her?

If she's shy, consider MSN or emails to talk, she'll feel more comfortable with it. Not that you can't speak to her face 2 face, but messaging is easier because shy girls are usually the romantic type, and to appeal to her you will have to compliment her, say how beautiful she is, make her feel good, you get the point.

If she's outgoing (and you're a little timid yourself), it'll be a bit more challenging. Outgoing girls like to have fun and mostly want a guy their type. You'll have to speak to her face to face. Forget any love letter, MSN etc, generally they don't like shy guys and will at most think they're cute but in a "looking-down on them" way. The above DO's tips become very important if you don't wanna choke. Maintain composure and prove to her you are worthy of being a good bf. The best thing i've came up with that usually works is to make her think none of this asking out stuff is too serious. I.E "I really think you're a nice person. You're real cool (or You have nice shoes, i like your clothes, your hair is pretty, etc). Know what? I'd like to go out with you, you know, just for fun, what do you think?". Also, if you're able to crack a joke or two it makes the atmosphere better. That's why funny guys often get the hot girls, even when they're way below par (looks-wise, etc.)

Phew, that was long. Well, I gave you all i know. Hope it helps. Good luck!

Fuck if I know.

Never asked a girl out before. xD Haha

We like presents though, this I know for sure.

Pasithea ok apart from that culd you help me cos i havn'y got a clue how to ask this girl i really like out

Well first of all what is she like?

Have to know some details before I can give any advice. Like do you know what she likes and dislikes?

I think indy gave some great advice on it already though.

I don't think I could say it any better. lol

no point now jus talkin to her on msn turns out she has a boy friend already so i guess my search starts anew

an advice from our dear lady, this has got to be true, thanks, lol.

I know! I give out such awesome advice! AMIRITE?

Haha...no seriously though, if she says, "Oh don't worry sweetie, you don't have to get me anything!" For her birthday, your anniversary, Valentine's Day, Christmas, Thanksgiving, the 4th of July or any other damn holiday out there, DO NOT BELIEVE HER. Because it's not the thought that just counts.

It's a trap.

so in other words get summin and she'll be happy right?

Yup! You got it. :3

Honestly, I don't think I've ever really asked a girl out. I'm usually the type that kinda lets whatever happen happen. I've found personally that just being myself, which in real life is fairly philosophical, but goofy and flirtatious, and being confident that I'm happy in my own skin, will lead the girls to you. Granted I haven't found the love of my life and gotten married this way or anything, but I've sure had a lot of fun along the way. Also, most of the time it works better to be the guy in the back just cracking jokes and being fun, than the guy trying to spout off lines and constantly trying to get with the girl.

In other words, stop trying so hard, a lot of girls get turned off if a guy seems to desperate. Just relax and be yourself and be happy with that, well, I guess being physically attractive and making a good living help as well, but you know what I'm saying.

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how about dick wrapped in a gift box? lol


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yeah, i understand, i think "being physically attractive" > "every other good quality a guy has", why do today society's stereotype women seem so picky and high&mighty, on several occasions where my friend asked a girl out in a social dance party, the replies were "oh, no, i don't think so" or "sorry, but i've got one already"(u know she doesn't) or even "eww"(trust me, my friend is not the ugly type, he's more fit than an athlete) , even when i'm only talkin about the certain stereotypes, the general qualities of a "lady" seems to be down graded, most of the girls in my school dress like they just plain want "it", u know, exposing more than 80% of their body and swinging their booties around like they don't care, but they'll kick u in the face if u even try to act nice around them, what happened? did we gentleman do something wrong in the past? or has culture evolved beyond my understanding, has the acts of certain drunk celebrities poisoned today's female teenagers' minds?

and of course, i didn't mean to offend anyone, but the truth is there, the facts are so, the reason i'm goin for older types(university or college students) is that they seem more mature and understanding than ur average highschool "chick". A drink never hurts, does it?

I let things go with the flow.

I find the best way to ask a girl on a date is to first know her for a while and her GODDAMN name. Then you go up to her and simply ask her "Wanna go to the movies with me on Friday?" or something like that. I NEVER use MSN or EMAILS because they just prove to the girl you're asking on a date how much of a pussy you are(but shy girls tend to like being asked in that fashion).

I hate when girls that wear tons of makeup or act slutty ask me out. They seem like some kind of plastic.

Well, two things involved in that, when it comes to physically attractiveness, often being in bad shape is a sign of someone who has issues in other areas of their life, and is generally bad at taking care of themselves. On the other hand people in TOO perfect a shape is a sign of someone who isn't well rounded. For me I try to stay in shape, and try to find partners that are fit, if only because I like the outdoors and travelling, and sex is also a lot better when you're both in shape.

As for the other comment, I agree entirely. I hear woman after woman complain about how men are now adays and always lament that there aren't any good men anymore. I would almost say that is actually even more true of women now a days. Far too many women (not all, just seems high and growing in number) seem to be very materialistic, very ignorant, and very unmotivated about their own lives. There are some out there that are great, don't get me wrong, it just seems more and more these days that anything resembling a "lady" in terms of personality is fast becoming extinct. And by lady I don't mean has to be my slave or always nice or whatever, but just someone that can at least occasionally act in a way that it wouldn't embarrass me to take her to a high class social party. Someone who can speak intelligently, and act with some grace from time to time. Especially grace, dignity and elegance, those qualities seem especially rare in females these days.

Probably a good idea to watch her mood, too. (seems stalker ish... but alls fair in love and war) If it seems like a good day for her and seems like she wants to do something, ask her. She seems tired, act tired with her and make up an excuse and ask her if she wants to go grab coffee.

One of the best ways: She just got dumped by her boyfriend? Take advantage. XD

Unless you're friends with her ex-boyfriend. I usually consider that out of bounds.

Unless of course, my friend gives the get-go.

Heh, that was actually the situation with my last serious GF. Though to be fair I met him and her at the same time, and they had broken up like a month before that.

How do you ask a girl out?

Chloroform.

I couldn't stop laughing for a minute after reading that. You are horrible person. (Keep up the good work!)