Why can't we get the girls?
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For me i guess I cant keep them interested in me past the friendship phase.
I am not anti-social but I am not one to go on and on about how my day when to everyone....I guess my devil may care attitude plays a part too
I am not anti-social but I am not one to go on and on about how my day when to everyone....I guess my devil may care attitude plays a part too
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For me it's the fact that I'm the quiet type, I live in the middle of nowhere(I live about 45mins from the nearest game store, including walmart), and in high school I might as well of gone to an all boys school( the ratio of boys to girls was about 20:1).
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A ray of Tsunlight.
I actually can, I don't find it too hard, it's more like I choose not too. I'm far too busy with all the stuff going down right now that it'd be a distraction. (albeit a good one).
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ive had girlfriends in the past. i think the reason i have / always had trouble dating is simply b/c im ugly. not like "holy shit this dudes ugly" ugly, but more like "that guy has a big ass nose and is fukin skinny" ugly.
you could say im shy. i dont approach women i dont know and hit on them. but if im introduced, or i already know them or something im comfortable with them. i get along easily with girls, and have been told im quite charming. but i just feel that its my physical apperance (again, BIG nose.. VERY skinny, i mean 6'3 130lbs skinny..)
what sucks is having many female friends who think of you solely as a friend. the friend zone blows, lol.
you could say im shy. i dont approach women i dont know and hit on them. but if im introduced, or i already know them or something im comfortable with them. i get along easily with girls, and have been told im quite charming. but i just feel that its my physical apperance (again, BIG nose.. VERY skinny, i mean 6'3 130lbs skinny..)
what sucks is having many female friends who think of you solely as a friend. the friend zone blows, lol.
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I fall in the friend zone too easily. actually, pushing that, I sometimes seem to fall in the "gay friend" zone. Being bi doesn't always mean good things, it mostly means confusion for all parties involved. But on top of that, I wear my heart on my sleeve. I'm over zealously emotional and vulnerable. It's easy for me to get hurt. Seemingly, girls don't like the emotional types as much as they say they do. They all either want the asshole, or the anchor who has the strength to carry the world on his shoulders.
I also seemingly have really bad timing in everything. I'll be into a girl, she'll want nothing to do with me. I'll move on, she'll come around. you know, when i've given up, and started looking elsewhere. and if i start considering her again, she gave up and found another boyfriend. It's like a fucking game of tag.
Also, I tend to stay away from anything that demands commitment, mostly because of my vulnerability. Commitment means actually getting attached and caring, it means missing them if they leave. So yeah, another hedgehog here. I want to get close to people but I don't dare because I don't want to get hurt.
And as for guys, either they're not my type, or they're straight. there's just no interesting, available guys around here for me to consider. (That was probably too much information. meh.) I remember a girl complaining to me once that all the good guys were either taken or gay. I beg to differ.
I also seemingly have really bad timing in everything. I'll be into a girl, she'll want nothing to do with me. I'll move on, she'll come around. you know, when i've given up, and started looking elsewhere. and if i start considering her again, she gave up and found another boyfriend. It's like a fucking game of tag.
Also, I tend to stay away from anything that demands commitment, mostly because of my vulnerability. Commitment means actually getting attached and caring, it means missing them if they leave. So yeah, another hedgehog here. I want to get close to people but I don't dare because I don't want to get hurt.
And as for guys, either they're not my type, or they're straight. there's just no interesting, available guys around here for me to consider. (That was probably too much information. meh.) I remember a girl complaining to me once that all the good guys were either taken or gay. I beg to differ.
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Hmmm, to be honest getting a date isn't that difficult. When I feel like it, I dont have too hard of a time. If you know how to notice thing's youll find similarities in how people show interest. That and a little bravado will do you good. I too am a relatively shy guy. I've been in 4 serious relationships, and too many dates to bother counting. Longest relationship was 7 months, shortest was 1.5 months. 2 cheated on me, one was a mutual breakup, the other she moved away.
College was a surprise to me at first. Women were alot more simple in going about the "game." Shyness is something that gets better with experience, it never fully disappears until prolonged association is gained. But a positive attitude and a bit of risk taking are neccessary. As many girls as there are that respond to assholes positvely, It doesnt mean that all men need to be jerks to get a girl. Hell if a girl wants that then just leave her be, isnt any of your business even if you happen to like her. Love is a serious thing, and knowing the difference between lust love and like is a key we all must learn.
Just know, the person you like could be just as shy as yourself. Gather your nerve and talk to the girl. Otherwise, you just might be passing up a good thing.
Also btw, I was a loner throughout high school with the same solid pack of friends since grade school. I had a hell of a time talking to the first girl I ever asked out, which was successful, movies and dinner ending with a nice view of the city lights and stars as we talked. Anyhow my palsm were drenched and it took me months to grow the balls neccessary to simply hug a damn woman in a friendly manner. *no groping lol*
College was a surprise to me at first. Women were alot more simple in going about the "game." Shyness is something that gets better with experience, it never fully disappears until prolonged association is gained. But a positive attitude and a bit of risk taking are neccessary. As many girls as there are that respond to assholes positvely, It doesnt mean that all men need to be jerks to get a girl. Hell if a girl wants that then just leave her be, isnt any of your business even if you happen to like her. Love is a serious thing, and knowing the difference between lust love and like is a key we all must learn.
Just know, the person you like could be just as shy as yourself. Gather your nerve and talk to the girl. Otherwise, you just might be passing up a good thing.
Also btw, I was a loner throughout high school with the same solid pack of friends since grade school. I had a hell of a time talking to the first girl I ever asked out, which was successful, movies and dinner ending with a nice view of the city lights and stars as we talked. Anyhow my palsm were drenched and it took me months to grow the balls neccessary to simply hug a damn woman in a friendly manner. *no groping lol*
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Well I've had a cpl girls interested in my while I lived here but I just dont want a GF because I'm sick of being fucked over with shit like you dont call enough(aka every 5 secs) or we dont spend time togther(aka every waking moment) or all you want is sex...lol thats true...lol if only there was a girl who had more in common with me cause i have alot of different things i like lol.