Does Age Matter
Is an age gap of 12 years alot?
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So earlier i posted about my friend and how i was going to his for gaming and hentai...so we're seeing each other now. I took a suggestion from that topic actually [cue violins] and bit the bullet today [didnt wait long] i'm pretty much blissful [waiting for the downer].
Any way! He's my ideal, nice guy, really sweet, bonafide [or so called] 'geek'. Yup, my cup of tea, beer, wine etcc...only thing i dont like is that he kicks my ass on street fighter >_< !!!
One tiny, nibbling problem at the back of my head. He's 12 years older than me.now thats all good and fine, i mean, i'm 18 and he's 30... i'm just thinking about the possible comlications from it thats all.... i'm not an idiot [i think so at least...] i'm not going to jump head first and expect a wedding [HA!].
Any way suggestions etc will be mucho appriciated.
p.s. i did check if theres already a topic like this [there isnt methinks...] but if there is one from wwaaaayy back then i'm sorry and you can flame this topic to hell as long as i get the link for the old topic.
Ta for listening/replying/lurking lol!!
Any way! He's my ideal, nice guy, really sweet, bonafide [or so called] 'geek'. Yup, my cup of tea, beer, wine etcc...only thing i dont like is that he kicks my ass on street fighter >_< !!!
One tiny, nibbling problem at the back of my head. He's 12 years older than me.now thats all good and fine, i mean, i'm 18 and he's 30... i'm just thinking about the possible comlications from it thats all.... i'm not an idiot [i think so at least...] i'm not going to jump head first and expect a wedding [HA!].
Any way suggestions etc will be mucho appriciated.
p.s. i did check if theres already a topic like this [there isnt methinks...] but if there is one from wwaaaayy back then i'm sorry and you can flame this topic to hell as long as i get the link for the old topic.
Ta for listening/replying/lurking lol!!
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"wrong idea", my ass.
I choose the "Meh" option, simply because, while I do feel that love/like/lust has the right to transcend age, I do feel there is a limit.
My creeped out zone stretches from 1-12, and then from 70+.
Anything in between is alright, I guess.
I choose the "Meh" option, simply because, while I do feel that love/like/lust has the right to transcend age, I do feel there is a limit.
My creeped out zone stretches from 1-12, and then from 70+.
Anything in between is alright, I guess.
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well its nice to throw caution to the wind/out the window/into oblivion. any way, ta me auld plate ^^
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Twelve years difference would be a bit much for me, but then I have no idea what the relationship is like between you two so as long as you're not lying about your age and you're legal then do what you want to do within reason. Don't throw caution to the wind, you know?
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o shit, 12 years thats alot, but then again my rents r 11 yrs apart, & hav ben maried 4 16 years, so i guess idk
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SiC wrote...
Twelve years difference would be a bit much for me, but then I have no idea what the relationship is like between you two so as long as you're not lying about your age and you're legal then do what you want to do within reason. Don't throw caution to the wind, you know?Promise i am lol.
I'm [supposedly] more mature for my age and without wanting to sound too naive, i think we're going to have a good relationship. Its just starting out so we'll see. but i have told him what i want and dont want, i'm pretty blunt in that way so for now we'll just see where it goes. i guess i'm just worrying about what the age gap means and what it can result in [if that makes any sense]. Im pretty liberal personaly and politically, but i can also see what others will think of me/him/us, and even though it supposedly 'doesnt matter' what others think, it does still have slight effect ect..
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Tsujoi
Social Media Manager
Heh, ironic that I just finished a show about a 60 year old man falling in love with a 35 year old woman...Although your age gap isn't as large...but still...
Well, I guess it could work out as long as you both want the same kind of relationship.
Well, I guess it could work out as long as you both want the same kind of relationship.
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yeah, it's all about what u think, our opinions don't really matter, it's personal choice and preference.
age gaps don't really matter, when it come to a true and honest relationship, if u both feel like goin through with it, after all, it's ur call.
though, i think the many of us here will think the age gap of 12 years is bit much, the probability of it working out is also extremely low.
if it is 5 or lower, i would've thought it's ok, but just to be on the cautious side, think carefully before u make a decision.
age gaps don't really matter, when it come to a true and honest relationship, if u both feel like goin through with it, after all, it's ur call.
though, i think the many of us here will think the age gap of 12 years is bit much, the probability of it working out is also extremely low.
if it is 5 or lower, i would've thought it's ok, but just to be on the cautious side, think carefully before u make a decision.
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Aion Crux
Banned
i'm not married,and i will not married.
but at least,i can give some advice to you.
you have a crush on someone? great.
be sure to do something new for him (like change your hair color,dress,etc). guys are quick bored (me also),if you love your couple,always try something he likes. never abandon him. guys are the worst if it comes to brokenheart. they wont eat,they wont sleep,they even gets suicide. (if you dont believe me,my friend ever trying to suicide. right in front of my eyes)
love maybe has no boundaries by age. but in reality,most of guys prefer to have younger wife. believe me. there's no man who wants a grandma to be his wife,right?
man are different from girls who prefer love than appearance.
when it comes to select a wife,most of guys prefer to choose by it's appearance and age.
if there's a woman who's older than him,but comes with beautiful appearance,then think about it. someday she'll gets old faster than you. and you must live with granny,as your wife
but at least,i can give some advice to you.
you have a crush on someone? great.
be sure to do something new for him (like change your hair color,dress,etc). guys are quick bored (me also),if you love your couple,always try something he likes. never abandon him. guys are the worst if it comes to brokenheart. they wont eat,they wont sleep,they even gets suicide. (if you dont believe me,my friend ever trying to suicide. right in front of my eyes)
love maybe has no boundaries by age. but in reality,most of guys prefer to have younger wife. believe me. there's no man who wants a grandma to be his wife,right?
man are different from girls who prefer love than appearance.
when it comes to select a wife,most of guys prefer to choose by it's appearance and age.
if there's a woman who's older than him,but comes with beautiful appearance,then think about it. someday she'll gets old faster than you. and you must live with granny,as your wife
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Nate River wrote...
yeah, it's all about what u think, our opinions don't really matter, it's personal choice and preference. age gaps don't really matter, when it come to a true and honest relationship, if u both feel like goin through with it, after all, it's ur call.
though, i think the many of us here will think the age gap of 12 years is bit much, the probability of it working out is also extremely low.
if it is 5 or lower, i would've thought it's ok, but just to be on the cautious side, think carefully before u make a decision.
Thank you ^^ and i know it wont last forever, im not sure about the 'working out' part lol. I just hope that we can make each other happy for some time. Sounds stupid right?
E.X.A.M wrote...
i'm not married,and i will not married.but at least,i can give some advice to you.
you have a crush on someone? great.
be sure to do something new for him (like change your hair color,dress,etc). guys are quick bored (me also),if you love your couple,always try something he likes. never abandon him. guys are the worst if it comes to brokenheart. they wont eat,they wont sleep,they even gets suicide. (if you dont believe me,my friend ever trying to suicide. right in front of my eyes)
love maybe has no boundaries by age. but in reality,most of guys prefer to have younger wife. believe me. there's no man who wants a grandma to be his wife,right?
man are different from girls who prefer love than appearance.
when it comes to select a wife,most of guys prefer to choose by it's appearance and age.
if there's a woman who's older than him,but comes with beautiful appearance,then think about it. someday she'll gets old faster than you. and you must live with granny,as your wife
Again, thank you ^^ i didnt really get it...so i have to change myself and never leave him alone? Umm i guess thats one opinion, but i'm not trying to tie him down! i just want to make him happy! And did you mean change on the outside or the inside? I know i wont marry him, i dont really have that choice.
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SiC wrote...
E.X.A.M wrote...
there's no man who wants a grandma to be his wife,right?You'd be surprised.
hey put a warning sign on that next time, thanks to that, i'll be having another nightmare. *SIGH*
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SiC wrote...
E.X.A.M wrote...
there's no man who wants a grandma to be his wife,right?You'd be surprised.
Hmmmm. different strokes i guess. :shock:
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Aion Crux
Banned
@SiC
yep,i know it. but that's in Western. in eastern,almost of us didnt want to do it with granny. there's a rule that we must respect them,and dont do something (like the one in the web). it's rules and culture that forbid us to do it.
@Fujoshi_C
i'm not telling you to tie him down. it's hard to get close each other. try to get close to him,but it doesnt mean that you must tie him down.
in other way,dont let him too free. he must realize that he has you,as his girlfriend. mens are bastard,they always looking on the girl which prettier and sexier. (i'm not denying it. i'm used to be that too. but that's an old story).
if you want to make serious relationship,never leave him alone. always try your best to make him happy. you'll get happy by yourself if you see he's smiling at you.
but since you're not going to be serious on him,i guess it's up to you.
just one thing to remember. dont make him brokenheart. men will act scary if their heart gets broken. if there's opportunity to kill,then he'll do it.
it's not weird. we're humans. we sometimes feel emotional,and uncontrollable.
yep,i know it. but that's in Western. in eastern,almost of us didnt want to do it with granny. there's a rule that we must respect them,and dont do something (like the one in the web). it's rules and culture that forbid us to do it.
@Fujoshi_C
i'm not telling you to tie him down. it's hard to get close each other. try to get close to him,but it doesnt mean that you must tie him down.
in other way,dont let him too free. he must realize that he has you,as his girlfriend. mens are bastard,they always looking on the girl which prettier and sexier. (i'm not denying it. i'm used to be that too. but that's an old story).
if you want to make serious relationship,never leave him alone. always try your best to make him happy. you'll get happy by yourself if you see he's smiling at you.
but since you're not going to be serious on him,i guess it's up to you.
just one thing to remember. dont make him brokenheart. men will act scary if their heart gets broken. if there's opportunity to kill,then he'll do it.
it's not weird. we're humans. we sometimes feel emotional,and uncontrollable.
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E.X.A.M wrote...
@SiCyep,i know it. but that's in Western. in eastern,almost of us didnt want to do it with granny. there's a rule that we must respect them,and dont do something (like the one in the web). it's rules and culture that forbid us to do it.
@Fujoshi_C
i'm not telling you to tie him down. it's hard to get close each other. try to get close to him,but it doesnt mean that you must tie him down.
in other way,dont let him too free. he must realize that he has you,as his girlfriend. mens are bastard,they always looking on the girl which prettier and sexier. (i'm not denying it. i'm used to be that too. but that's an old story).
if you want to make serious relationship,never leave him alone. always try your best to make him happy. you'll get happy by yourself if you see he's smiling at you.
but since you're not going to be serious on him,i guess it's up to you.
just one thing to remember. dont make him brokenheart. men will act scary if their heart gets broken. if there's opportunity to kill,then he'll do it.
it's not weird. we're humans. we sometimes feel emotional,and uncontrollable.
I think thats an unfair assumption to make that i'm not serious, i am serious about being with him, slightly afraid about losing him, i dont believe in doing things by halves.. but i also have to be realistic, im too old to have my head in the clouds unfortunately. But i guess its different points of view, Thank you though!
And do you mean kill as in kill me or is 'kill' a simile or metaphor in which you're refering so something else on the similar vein??
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Fujoshi_C wrote...
So earlier i posted about my friend and how i was going to his for gaming and hentaiDamn, that guy's lucky. I could never imagine walking up to girl and asking "Hey, how would you like to come over to my place later to play some video games and look at cartoon porn?" without it being followed up by a stare of disbelief, or slap across the face.
As far as the topic goes, Imo the gap in age doesn't really bother me, so much as a 30 year old guy who still plays video games and faps to hentai does (seems kinda creepy). I would need to know wether he has a job, lives on his own, before I could bless such a union. But then again maybe I'm just jealous? Who knows.
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Waar
FAKKU Moderator
Fujoshi_C wrote...
E.X.A.M wrote...
@SiCyep,i know it. but that's in Western. in eastern,almost of us didnt want to do it with granny. there's a rule that we must respect them,and dont do something (like the one in the web). it's rules and culture that forbid us to do it.
@Fujoshi_C
i'm not telling you to tie him down. it's hard to get close each other. try to get close to him,but it doesnt mean that you must tie him down.
in other way,dont let him too free. he must realize that he has you,as his girlfriend. mens are bastard,they always looking on the girl which prettier and sexier. (i'm not denying it. i'm used to be that too. but that's an old story).
if you want to make serious relationship,never leave him alone. always try your best to make him happy. you'll get happy by yourself if you see he's smiling at you.
but since you're not going to be serious on him,i guess it's up to you.
just one thing to remember. dont make him brokenheart. men will act scary if their heart gets broken. if there's opportunity to kill,then he'll do it.
it's not weird. we're humans. we sometimes feel emotional,and uncontrollable.
I think thats an unfair assumption to make that i'm not serious, i am serious about being with him, slightly afraid about losing him, i dont believe in doing things by halves.. but i also have to be realistic, im too old to have my head in the clouds unfortunately. But i guess its different points of view, Thank you though!
And do you mean kill as in kill me or is 'kill' a simile or metaphor in which you're refering so something else on the similar vein??
he meant kill as in kill you... sometimes EXAM says the wrong thing... i think his hard life has made him a pessimist.
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Aion Crux
Banned
you said that you want marry him. from that words,i think you're not serious with him,just a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship.
if you wont marry him,then,at least,try not to get serious.
you know you wont marry him,and that's mean you cant be together forever with him.
someday you'll get separated from him,and that'll be hurting you so much,knowing that you wont marry him.
in order to supress the pain,just.. dont get serious if you dont want to marry him.
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oh.. sorry. just forget the "kill" words. it's just my overwhelming thoughts about men.
if you wont marry him,then,at least,try not to get serious.
you know you wont marry him,and that's mean you cant be together forever with him.
someday you'll get separated from him,and that'll be hurting you so much,knowing that you wont marry him.
in order to supress the pain,just.. dont get serious if you dont want to marry him.
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oh.. sorry. just forget the "kill" words. it's just my overwhelming thoughts about men.