Slice of Life (New Topic: Off to Tokyo)
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FreeOtakuGhost36 wrote...
Christmas is the time to be with family,not showing of you're having a lovey dovey time with your lover and make unpopular guys feeling jelly!So much feeling of failure...
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Looky-tan
Got Megane?
A PS3, but that won't happen, so hopefully money, which I can use to get a PS3.
That's all, anything else I put is sure to not happen so I should keep it simple and possible.
That's all, anything else I put is sure to not happen so I should keep it simple and possible.
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I hope everyone got what they wished for this Christmas. :)
I am bumping this thread just to wish all my fellow Fakku members "Beary Christmas and Happy New Year! May Santa bring you lots of presents and grant all of your wishes!"
I am bumping this thread just to wish all my fellow Fakku members "Beary Christmas and Happy New Year! May Santa bring you lots of presents and grant all of your wishes!"
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Gambler wrote...
I hope everyone got what they wished for this Christmas. :)I am bumping this thread just to wish all my fellow Fakku members "Beary Christmas and Happy New Year! May Santa bring you lots of presents and grant all of your wishes!"
-pokes-
Thanks for the very awesome Christmas wish PM~
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Lizlet L. Chelsie wrote...
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Thanks for the very awesome Christmas wish PM~
I hoped everyone liked it. :)
To tell the truth, I wanted to buy some of my fellow bears home, especially the huge one on the image found on the top left corner. The bear with the -_- eyes. Lol!
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Gambler wrote...
Lizlet L. Chelsie wrote...
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Thanks for the very awesome Christmas wish PM~
I hoped everyone liked it. :)
To tell the truth, I wanted to buy some of my fellow bears home, especially the huge one on the image found on the top left corner. The bear with the -_- eyes. Lol!
I celebrated this year's Christmas with a dolphin instead of bear tho~ and you should buy it~ don't think too much to buy something like that
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Lizlet L. Chelsie wrote...
I celebrated this year's Christmas with a dolphin instead of bear tho~ and you should buy it~ don't think too much to buy something like that
I like dolphins too! Do you mind sharing an image of the dolphin with me?
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Gambler wrote...
Lizlet L. Chelsie wrote...
I celebrated this year's Christmas with a dolphin instead of bear tho~ and you should buy it~ don't think too much to buy something like that
I like dolphins too! Do you mind sharing an image of the dolphin with me?
Hehe~ who doesn't like dolphins~ I would but later okay~
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Unos wrote...
The only wish I have this Christmas is for my crush to love me.Hmm... that sounds oddly familiar. Am I feeling the same way too?
Lizlet L. Chelsie wrote...
Hehe~ who doesn't like dolphins~ I would but later okay~
Yup, they are so cute and cuddly! I don't mind... better late than never. :)
Unos wrote...
I don't like dolphinsYou don't!? I am kinda shocked. ^_^;;
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For those of you who don't know, I have been away from Fakku for the past week or so partly because I am on military training. In addition, my account was deactivated due to the hack on the site.
In any case, it was a miserable transition from 2011 to 2012 for me. Below would be the posts I made during this period of time, on my blog, with some edit thrown in.
For the sake of posting, I shall call her “Snow”. Even though we went out together late last month, she became very quiet all of a sudden. I wondered if it was something I did. On 28 Dec 2011 (Wednesday), I met up to pass her some books, but even during our short encounter, she remained extremely quiet and was reluctant to speak with me. Feeling exasperated, I went home, penned down all of my feelings on a letter and visited her workplace impromptu the next morning.
I openly expressed my feelings towards her and apologized if I have done anything wrong. Of course, she was extremely annoyed that I dropped by without notice and refused to accept my letter. I had no choice but to leave it on her desk. At that point in time, I told myself I only wished to be friends with her again, to be able to chat and speak freely about all matters under the sun, but when she finally texted me in the evening, it was the following: "I am sorry I have to reject you again and by the way, I already have a boyfriend." Given that I have already noticed a ring on her finger, I should have sensed something was amiss.
My world collapsed around me. On one hand, I want her to be happy, because in my opinion, her radiant smile is one of the most wondrous sights I have ever experienced, but on the other hand, I really wish I am the guy by her side. Is it selfish and greedy of me to think of the latter?
I have really tried my best in trying to make her happy. I believed my sincere and true feelings, as well as determination, would be able to touch and win her heart, but alas, I failed miserably. Right now, I am swarmed with negative emotions - resentment, jealousy, feelings of unfairness and misery. I am not ashamed to admit that I prayed to the powers above for help, but did they not hear my pleas?
Furthermore, all my current thoughts revolve around Snow. I can neither eat nor sleep properly. I can't help but recall all the fond memories I had with her - from the first time I asked for her mobile number, when we visited the music library together, our outings to a local shopping mall, our singing sessions, etc. Looking at the text conversations we had, should I have done things differently to win her heart? Possess more courage, be more assertive?
To a certain extent, it has been an enjoyable year, especially during those occasions where I spent time with Snow.. Ever since I got to know her, there is motivation in my life. Even looking forward to a simply text reply from her will make me happy. Am I such a naive bear? But now:
I know I will never be able to hold her hand.
I know I will never have a chance to kiss her.
I know I will never have the opportunity to bring her to movie dates and other places of interest again.
I know her smile will be reserved for that special person in her life.
I know I will never see her putting on the cute Nyan pose for me ever again.
And I know it is no longer my role to watch over her as an "guardian angel".
What should I do now? After speaking to a few friends, I could choose from the following options:
1) Give up. "Someone better will enter my life", but when will "she" appear?
2) Wait. If she ever wants me, I will gladly accept her.
3) Continue to pursue her. According to my friends, all is fair in love and war.
In addition, I have so many questions I wish to ask Snow and I believe only she has the answers which I want to personally hear. Will she be willing to meet up and have a long chat with myself? Of course, my friends have advised me not to harbour any expectations of being accepted by her. To make matters worse, the miliary camp in which I am supposed to attend training soon is located close to her workplace.
Up till today, only 2 girls have ever caused me to shed tears and Snow happens to be one of them.
She did reply my text message: "What questions you want to ask?". However, before this particular message, I suspect she may have accidentally sent a message meant for another person (possibly her boyfriend) to me: "What do you mean? By hanging out, do you mean going out or hanging things at home?" This is the first time she has ever sent a message meant for another recipient to me. I really hope it was not done out of purpose to spite myself, and even if it was a coincidence, the error seems to have appeared at a very "timely" moment...
In any case, these are the questions I posed to her via text message. As much as I wish to meet up with her, or speak over the phone, the ball is no longer in my court.
1) How long have you been together with your boyfriend?
2) Why didn't you tell me about it and is this the reason why you became quiet recently?
3) What qualities does he have that I am lacking?
4) Did I ever stand a chance?
5) Are we still friends?
My friends have warned that I may never receive a reply and that things will never be the same ever again. In the worst case scenario, both Snow and I may not even remain friends. I do not know if this is the correct decision, but something has to be done eventually.
In addition, in order to vent my frustrations and sorrow, I have composed yet another poem, entitled "Memories and What May Never Come to Pass".
To end off this sorrowful post, I once had a beautiful daydream, whereby I am able to visit Japan on a trip with Snow, especially since we are both interested in anime and manga. How perfect and wonderful it would have been... Unfortunately, my daydream has now been shattered, realizing that it can never be. :(
Response to Question 1 and 2:
Who do you think you are that I have to tell you about my personal stuff? Not all my friends know. Why should I tell the world about it? And it is not that I am quiet; it is just proof that you don't understand me enough coz to everyone I know I only choose to reply messages when I feel like it. If I don't think it is important and all my friends know this (?)
Response to Question 3 and 4:
Like I told you before, it is the feelings that count and not really what the person has. If you ask me why, I also don't know. And as to how long it will last, I also don't know.
Response to Question 5:
I think it is actually quite stupid as I will not even reply you if I don't consider you a friend.
When I first read the message, I was definitely angered. I was very tempted to reply in an equally harsh, if not worse, manner. However, I finally decided not to do so. "Thank you for your reply" was all that I wrote.
Perhaps my questions were too direct and straightforward, causing her to feel offended. However, I did not think they were rude in any way. Nonetheless, I so very much wish to defend myself:
All I wanted to know was whether she has been with her boyfriend for a long time. If so, why did she still go on outings (dates?) with myself, with the most recent ones in late Nov 2011? Why did she tell me she wanted to try out a new restaurant? Why did she say the choice to meet up lies with me? Why did she tell me she wanted a 1.6 metre teddy bear? Aren't these roles meant for her boyfriend? Even if she did get together with her boyfriend in the past 1 month, she could have informed me. To tell the truth, I did not mind spending my money on the various gifts, but I do feel aggrieved for not knowing the truth and being "led-on" to a certain extent. Of course, I should not place all the blame on the other party; perhaps I should have asked if she were attached in the first place. Right now, it is already too late to take back the sincere and genuine feelings which I had for her (and still do, to a lesser extent).
I believe I have put in quite a bit of effort to communicate and understand her, causing me to feel exasperated whenever she remains silent and answers in short sentences on certain occasions, be it face-to-face or via text messages. Yet at times, she is willing to tell me about her day and various events. Am I only there to ease her loneliness or serve as a plaything? Of course, I can't place all the blame on the other party again. Perhaps my method of understanding another person vastly differs from her usual methods of doing so.
Undeniably, feelings count when it comes to relationships and I am unable to refute this particular point. However, will there come a day when feelings for your partner fade suddenly?
From her response to question 5, I suppose we are still friends, even though I was deemed stupid. Being the soft-hearted bear that I am, I definitely wish to remain friends with her.
In conclusion, I personally felt that her reply was extremely rude, but placing myself in her shoes, agitation, frustration and other negative emotions are understandable. There is one good thing which came out of her reply - As much as there is lingering feelings for Snow in my heart, it has also strengthed my resolve to move on. I cannot rule out the possibility that she said all these words to aid me in moving on. If so, thank you, not only for helping me proceed to the next chapter of my life, but also for the fun and enjoyable times which I spent with you.
And to all my readers, have I made the right decision in giving her up and moving on?
P.S. I apologize for the wall of text but I am also curious what everyone else would have done, if you were in my shoes.
P.S.#2: My presence on Fakku will be limited for the next 2 weeks or so, as I am currently in the midst of military training and some duties.
In any case, it was a miserable transition from 2011 to 2012 for me. Below would be the posts I made during this period of time, on my blog, with some edit thrown in.
Gambler wrote...
Today is New Year's Eve and I know for sure I am not entering 2012 in a happy mood. Why you may ask? I have been rejected by the same girl again, but this time round, she tells me she already has a boyfriend.For the sake of posting, I shall call her “Snow”. Even though we went out together late last month, she became very quiet all of a sudden. I wondered if it was something I did. On 28 Dec 2011 (Wednesday), I met up to pass her some books, but even during our short encounter, she remained extremely quiet and was reluctant to speak with me. Feeling exasperated, I went home, penned down all of my feelings on a letter and visited her workplace impromptu the next morning.
I openly expressed my feelings towards her and apologized if I have done anything wrong. Of course, she was extremely annoyed that I dropped by without notice and refused to accept my letter. I had no choice but to leave it on her desk. At that point in time, I told myself I only wished to be friends with her again, to be able to chat and speak freely about all matters under the sun, but when she finally texted me in the evening, it was the following: "I am sorry I have to reject you again and by the way, I already have a boyfriend." Given that I have already noticed a ring on her finger, I should have sensed something was amiss.
My world collapsed around me. On one hand, I want her to be happy, because in my opinion, her radiant smile is one of the most wondrous sights I have ever experienced, but on the other hand, I really wish I am the guy by her side. Is it selfish and greedy of me to think of the latter?
I have really tried my best in trying to make her happy. I believed my sincere and true feelings, as well as determination, would be able to touch and win her heart, but alas, I failed miserably. Right now, I am swarmed with negative emotions - resentment, jealousy, feelings of unfairness and misery. I am not ashamed to admit that I prayed to the powers above for help, but did they not hear my pleas?
Furthermore, all my current thoughts revolve around Snow. I can neither eat nor sleep properly. I can't help but recall all the fond memories I had with her - from the first time I asked for her mobile number, when we visited the music library together, our outings to a local shopping mall, our singing sessions, etc. Looking at the text conversations we had, should I have done things differently to win her heart? Possess more courage, be more assertive?
To a certain extent, it has been an enjoyable year, especially during those occasions where I spent time with Snow.. Ever since I got to know her, there is motivation in my life. Even looking forward to a simply text reply from her will make me happy. Am I such a naive bear? But now:
I know I will never be able to hold her hand.
I know I will never have a chance to kiss her.
I know I will never have the opportunity to bring her to movie dates and other places of interest again.
I know her smile will be reserved for that special person in her life.
I know I will never see her putting on the cute Nyan pose for me ever again.
And I know it is no longer my role to watch over her as an "guardian angel".
What should I do now? After speaking to a few friends, I could choose from the following options:
1) Give up. "Someone better will enter my life", but when will "she" appear?
2) Wait. If she ever wants me, I will gladly accept her.
3) Continue to pursue her. According to my friends, all is fair in love and war.
In addition, I have so many questions I wish to ask Snow and I believe only she has the answers which I want to personally hear. Will she be willing to meet up and have a long chat with myself? Of course, my friends have advised me not to harbour any expectations of being accepted by her. To make matters worse, the miliary camp in which I am supposed to attend training soon is located close to her workplace.
Up till today, only 2 girls have ever caused me to shed tears and Snow happens to be one of them.
Gambler wrote...
After speaking to a number of friends over the past few days, I finally came to a decision. I have decided to meet or at least, speak with Snow, so that I can obtain some answers to the various questions which I have in mind. If I do obtain them and hopefully, be able to remain friends with Snow, I should try my very best to move on with my life.She did reply my text message: "What questions you want to ask?". However, before this particular message, I suspect she may have accidentally sent a message meant for another person (possibly her boyfriend) to me: "What do you mean? By hanging out, do you mean going out or hanging things at home?" This is the first time she has ever sent a message meant for another recipient to me. I really hope it was not done out of purpose to spite myself, and even if it was a coincidence, the error seems to have appeared at a very "timely" moment...
In any case, these are the questions I posed to her via text message. As much as I wish to meet up with her, or speak over the phone, the ball is no longer in my court.
1) How long have you been together with your boyfriend?
2) Why didn't you tell me about it and is this the reason why you became quiet recently?
3) What qualities does he have that I am lacking?
4) Did I ever stand a chance?
5) Are we still friends?
My friends have warned that I may never receive a reply and that things will never be the same ever again. In the worst case scenario, both Snow and I may not even remain friends. I do not know if this is the correct decision, but something has to be done eventually.
In addition, in order to vent my frustrations and sorrow, I have composed yet another poem, entitled "Memories and What May Never Come to Pass".
To end off this sorrowful post, I once had a beautiful daydream, whereby I am able to visit Japan on a trip with Snow, especially since we are both interested in anime and manga. How perfect and wonderful it would have been... Unfortunately, my daydream has now been shattered, realizing that it can never be. :(
Gambler wrote...
She did reply to my earlier text message, and answered the various questions, albeit in an indirect, harsh and cold manner. The following would be her reply (with the short forms extended and the errors, edited).Response to Question 1 and 2:
Who do you think you are that I have to tell you about my personal stuff? Not all my friends know. Why should I tell the world about it? And it is not that I am quiet; it is just proof that you don't understand me enough coz to everyone I know I only choose to reply messages when I feel like it. If I don't think it is important and all my friends know this (?)
Response to Question 3 and 4:
Like I told you before, it is the feelings that count and not really what the person has. If you ask me why, I also don't know. And as to how long it will last, I also don't know.
Response to Question 5:
I think it is actually quite stupid as I will not even reply you if I don't consider you a friend.
When I first read the message, I was definitely angered. I was very tempted to reply in an equally harsh, if not worse, manner. However, I finally decided not to do so. "Thank you for your reply" was all that I wrote.
Perhaps my questions were too direct and straightforward, causing her to feel offended. However, I did not think they were rude in any way. Nonetheless, I so very much wish to defend myself:
All I wanted to know was whether she has been with her boyfriend for a long time. If so, why did she still go on outings (dates?) with myself, with the most recent ones in late Nov 2011? Why did she tell me she wanted to try out a new restaurant? Why did she say the choice to meet up lies with me? Why did she tell me she wanted a 1.6 metre teddy bear? Aren't these roles meant for her boyfriend? Even if she did get together with her boyfriend in the past 1 month, she could have informed me. To tell the truth, I did not mind spending my money on the various gifts, but I do feel aggrieved for not knowing the truth and being "led-on" to a certain extent. Of course, I should not place all the blame on the other party; perhaps I should have asked if she were attached in the first place. Right now, it is already too late to take back the sincere and genuine feelings which I had for her (and still do, to a lesser extent).
I believe I have put in quite a bit of effort to communicate and understand her, causing me to feel exasperated whenever she remains silent and answers in short sentences on certain occasions, be it face-to-face or via text messages. Yet at times, she is willing to tell me about her day and various events. Am I only there to ease her loneliness or serve as a plaything? Of course, I can't place all the blame on the other party again. Perhaps my method of understanding another person vastly differs from her usual methods of doing so.
Undeniably, feelings count when it comes to relationships and I am unable to refute this particular point. However, will there come a day when feelings for your partner fade suddenly?
From her response to question 5, I suppose we are still friends, even though I was deemed stupid. Being the soft-hearted bear that I am, I definitely wish to remain friends with her.
In conclusion, I personally felt that her reply was extremely rude, but placing myself in her shoes, agitation, frustration and other negative emotions are understandable. There is one good thing which came out of her reply - As much as there is lingering feelings for Snow in my heart, it has also strengthed my resolve to move on. I cannot rule out the possibility that she said all these words to aid me in moving on. If so, thank you, not only for helping me proceed to the next chapter of my life, but also for the fun and enjoyable times which I spent with you.
And to all my readers, have I made the right decision in giving her up and moving on?
P.S. I apologize for the wall of text but I am also curious what everyone else would have done, if you were in my shoes.
P.S.#2: My presence on Fakku will be limited for the next 2 weeks or so, as I am currently in the midst of military training and some duties.
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So it has come to that. I'm really sorry to hear it, Bear.
To be honest, things you did ask to her via messages in second quote are a bit too forceful and over-familiar, especially in 1 and 2. I don't intend to blame you in this case, but you need to read the situation, your current relation, and her condition more before asking such personal questions.
From what you said, her smile and happiness are what you wish for, and if it's possible, you would prefer to be the guy beside her; may I assume that your first priority is the former ? For her happiness and smile ?
With that being said, I'd suggest you to pick the first choice,
Give up. "Someone better will enter my life", but when will "she" appear?
Giving up here doesn't necessarily mean that you have to disappear from her sight. Just treasure the sweet and bitter things you ever had with her as your memories. Don't ever think of the possibility of her to return your feeling one day; expect less, do more. Talk to her, play together with her, do exactly all the things you ever did with her as if nothing has happened. If she rejected you, then so be it; but she also mentioned (or at least heavily implied) that you are still her friend, isn't that what really matter considering your first priority ?
Be with her when she needs you, listen to her problems if she would ever share one with you, do what you think is necessary (in friendly-term) to gain more positive points from her, but like I said : expect less. "Do what a good friend would usually do" is personally, what I do consider the only thing you can do for now.
She might be a bit harsh by her responses, but just like you said, it's understandable. Perhaps she might want you to realize your position by this matter. You are only friend to her, and that's it.
You need to get over it. Girl is not only one; There is no need to ask when will you meet your fated one as there is no real answer to it. But one thing I know is, just live your life till that happens.
Your life is your own, not decided by anybody, not affected by anybody; you decide your own life.
I will always be ready in time you ever need my support. I will try my best to cheer or at least, give you a proper suggestion.
Never give up in life, Bear.
To be honest, things you did ask to her via messages in second quote are a bit too forceful and over-familiar, especially in 1 and 2. I don't intend to blame you in this case, but you need to read the situation, your current relation, and her condition more before asking such personal questions.
From what you said, her smile and happiness are what you wish for, and if it's possible, you would prefer to be the guy beside her; may I assume that your first priority is the former ? For her happiness and smile ?
With that being said, I'd suggest you to pick the first choice,
Give up. "Someone better will enter my life", but when will "she" appear?
Giving up here doesn't necessarily mean that you have to disappear from her sight. Just treasure the sweet and bitter things you ever had with her as your memories. Don't ever think of the possibility of her to return your feeling one day; expect less, do more. Talk to her, play together with her, do exactly all the things you ever did with her as if nothing has happened. If she rejected you, then so be it; but she also mentioned (or at least heavily implied) that you are still her friend, isn't that what really matter considering your first priority ?
Be with her when she needs you, listen to her problems if she would ever share one with you, do what you think is necessary (in friendly-term) to gain more positive points from her, but like I said : expect less. "Do what a good friend would usually do" is personally, what I do consider the only thing you can do for now.
She might be a bit harsh by her responses, but just like you said, it's understandable. Perhaps she might want you to realize your position by this matter. You are only friend to her, and that's it.
You need to get over it. Girl is not only one; There is no need to ask when will you meet your fated one as there is no real answer to it. But one thing I know is, just live your life till that happens.
Your life is your own, not decided by anybody, not affected by anybody; you decide your own life.
I will always be ready in time you ever need my support. I will try my best to cheer or at least, give you a proper suggestion.
Never give up in life, Bear.
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Well there are always other girls. Get over it. She was harsh in her reply and (sorry to say this man) she was one hell of a bitch to lead you on if she wasn't even going to consider you. I'm all for moving forwards. I was rejected harshly as well. Let me share with you my personal experience.
I was in my final year of high school at the time. Being the guy that transferred in, I didn't really belong. I wasn't the social type so I almost always kept to myself and I frequently sat near the window just staring out to the sky while humming my favourite songs under my breath. She was one of the first girls to talk to me and I was kinda touched. I tried every chance I had to talk to her and we grew quite close in 2 months.
Then, during Valentines Day, I thought, "I should get her a rose as a Valentine present! I put it in her desk during lunch. I wonder if she'll get surprised?" That simple thought turned out to be a disaster. I put the rose on her desk right after everyone gone out for lunch and when I came back right as the bell rings, signalling the end of lunch, that same rose was on my table. All my classmates looked at me, she was averting her gaze with a look of disgust on her face.
I just blanked out. I just ran out of the classroom. And so a small seed of love was crushed before it was even planted.....
I was in my final year of high school at the time. Being the guy that transferred in, I didn't really belong. I wasn't the social type so I almost always kept to myself and I frequently sat near the window just staring out to the sky while humming my favourite songs under my breath. She was one of the first girls to talk to me and I was kinda touched. I tried every chance I had to talk to her and we grew quite close in 2 months.
Then, during Valentines Day, I thought, "I should get her a rose as a Valentine present! I put it in her desk during lunch. I wonder if she'll get surprised?" That simple thought turned out to be a disaster. I put the rose on her desk right after everyone gone out for lunch and when I came back right as the bell rings, signalling the end of lunch, that same rose was on my table. All my classmates looked at me, she was averting her gaze with a look of disgust on her face.
I just blanked out. I just ran out of the classroom. And so a small seed of love was crushed before it was even planted.....
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[size=12]oh, gambler... -hugs the kind hearted, sincere bear- i'm terribly sorry to hear that things have only gotten worse. i do hope the sun shines brighter on you soon. :c
as for my opinion on the matter... i feel that she was a bit harsh... while your questions are a bit prying, they don't sound forceful to me. the first two got the worst response, but, i feel that they are the most "normal." by this i mean, any friend could be asking another friend how long they've been with their SO and why they didn't know about it.
you put a question mark after this:
i think it's maybe just missing a few words, because i know sometimes i do that. "i only choose to reply to messages when i feel like it; if i don't think it is important, i might not reply right way, and all my friends know this," is what i think she meant.
calling you stupid for asking if you're friends could either be as rude as it sounds, or she could be slightly teasing you. "of course we're friends, stupid," with a playful smile is what i can sort of imagine.
as a girl, when i try to put myself in her position, i come up with this: she is angry and seemingly frustrated with you because of the awkward position she feels she's in. you're friends, but you have feelings for her. she knows this, so she might not want to hurt you by talking about her boyfriend because she'd feel like maybe she's shoving it in your face. by asking her straight out about him, it puts her on the spot and sort of makes her hurt you, which if you're friends, is what she's probably been trying to avoid.
if her intention was to avoid hurting you, she should have told you. maybe in passing so that maybe you'd give up on her without the extra pain of having to confront her and feel led on. however, if her intention was to use you to ease her loneliness and kind of have you as a boyfriend without the commitments, then ... i don't think i'd want her as a friend, personally. S:
i know she means a lot to you, and you want her in your life even if it's strictly as a friend, but it may be better for you to keep your distance. not completely, but just keep her at a certain distance. on the other hand, it may be easier to just break off completely. and once more, maybe it will help your heart if you stay close. try to imagine what could make you happiest.
when it comes down to it, you know your own heart, and i trust your judgment and will always support you 504.27%. just don't keep your hopes up for this girl, please, it hurts to see you hurting as well. move on in a healthy way. you seem to always be thinking of others, do what you think will make you feel best. /hypocrite
take care, gambler. hope to talk to you soon. ;-; -bear hugs for the bear-
as for my opinion on the matter... i feel that she was a bit harsh... while your questions are a bit prying, they don't sound forceful to me. the first two got the worst response, but, i feel that they are the most "normal." by this i mean, any friend could be asking another friend how long they've been with their SO and why they didn't know about it.
you put a question mark after this:
Snow wrote...
it is just proof that you don't understand me enough coz to everyone I know I only choose to reply messages when I feel like it. If I don't think it is important and all my friends know thisi think it's maybe just missing a few words, because i know sometimes i do that. "i only choose to reply to messages when i feel like it; if i don't think it is important, i might not reply right way, and all my friends know this," is what i think she meant.
calling you stupid for asking if you're friends could either be as rude as it sounds, or she could be slightly teasing you. "of course we're friends, stupid," with a playful smile is what i can sort of imagine.
as a girl, when i try to put myself in her position, i come up with this: she is angry and seemingly frustrated with you because of the awkward position she feels she's in. you're friends, but you have feelings for her. she knows this, so she might not want to hurt you by talking about her boyfriend because she'd feel like maybe she's shoving it in your face. by asking her straight out about him, it puts her on the spot and sort of makes her hurt you, which if you're friends, is what she's probably been trying to avoid.
if her intention was to avoid hurting you, she should have told you. maybe in passing so that maybe you'd give up on her without the extra pain of having to confront her and feel led on. however, if her intention was to use you to ease her loneliness and kind of have you as a boyfriend without the commitments, then ... i don't think i'd want her as a friend, personally. S:
i know she means a lot to you, and you want her in your life even if it's strictly as a friend, but it may be better for you to keep your distance. not completely, but just keep her at a certain distance. on the other hand, it may be easier to just break off completely. and once more, maybe it will help your heart if you stay close. try to imagine what could make you happiest.
when it comes down to it, you know your own heart, and i trust your judgment and will always support you 504.27%. just don't keep your hopes up for this girl, please, it hurts to see you hurting as well. move on in a healthy way. you seem to always be thinking of others, do what you think will make you feel best. /hypocrite
take care, gambler. hope to talk to you soon. ;-; -bear hugs for the bear-
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Instead of a long, drawn-out answer, I will just say:
I think it's time to say goodbye to Snow.
If you can continue your friendship comfortably, then by all means continue. But this is not the girl for you.
There are so many other girls in the world that would love to have you, that will see the good person inside of you and mesh with you completely. It seems like you decided that this "Snow" person would be the one, but she doesn't see it the same. And so, the universe hasn't given her to you.
Good relationships happen when two people are on the same wavelength, their harmonies matching perfectly.
Don't spend your energy on someone who has a completely different harmony than yours. Instead, direct your energy towards attracting someone who is in sync with yourself, who will love you for you and everything that is you and nothing else. They will love you effortlessly and without force.
/new age guru crap, lol.
Again in short...
Snow is not for you. Maybe you are Summer guy. But if you stay buried in the Snow...you'll never find out...
I think it's time to say goodbye to Snow.
If you can continue your friendship comfortably, then by all means continue. But this is not the girl for you.
There are so many other girls in the world that would love to have you, that will see the good person inside of you and mesh with you completely. It seems like you decided that this "Snow" person would be the one, but she doesn't see it the same. And so, the universe hasn't given her to you.
Good relationships happen when two people are on the same wavelength, their harmonies matching perfectly.
Don't spend your energy on someone who has a completely different harmony than yours. Instead, direct your energy towards attracting someone who is in sync with yourself, who will love you for you and everything that is you and nothing else. They will love you effortlessly and without force.
/new age guru crap, lol.
Again in short...
Snow is not for you. Maybe you are Summer guy. But if you stay buried in the Snow...you'll never find out...
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*hugles the GamBear*
Iknow it isnt much and I'm no person to give relationship advice.
I hope you find someone better.
Iknow it isnt much and I'm no person to give relationship advice.
I hope you find someone better.
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Circe wrote...
Again in short...Snow is not for you. Maybe you are Summer guy. But if you stay buried in the Snow...you'll never find out...
[font=verdana][color=green]This really tickled me. I'm not sure if it's cheesy or poetic, or even both at the same time. Love it.
But yeah, Gambler, it's just like the others have stated before me. It's time for you to get the shovel and clear the path to your heart of snow, or wait until you meet someone who can cause that snow to melt away in a smile.
My god. Now I'm doing it.