Slice of Life (New Topic: Off to Tokyo)
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Finally back from my military training. Lots of matters to catch up on, but it also provided me with time to think things through.
To be honest, things you did ask to her via messages in second quote are a bit too forceful and over-familiar, especially in 1 and 2. I don't intend to blame you in this case, but you need to read the situation, your current relation, and her condition more before asking such personal questions.
From what you said, her smile and happiness are what you wish for, and if it's possible, you would prefer to be the guy beside her; may I assume that your first priority is the former ? For her happiness and smile ?
With that being said, I'd suggest you to pick the first choice,
Give up. "Someone better will enter my life", but when will "she" appear?
Giving up here doesn't necessarily mean that you have to disappear from her sight. Just treasure the sweet and bitter things you ever had with her as your memories. Don't ever think of the possibility of her to return your feeling one day; expect less, do more. Talk to her, play together with her, do exactly all the things you ever did with her as if nothing has happened. If she rejected you, then so be it; but she also mentioned (or at least heavily implied) that you are still her friend, isn't that what really matter considering your first priority ?
Be with her when she needs you, listen to her problems if she would ever share one with you, do what you think is necessary (in friendly-term) to gain more positive points from her, but like I said : expect less. "Do what a good friend would usually do" is personally, what I do consider the only thing you can do for now.
She might be a bit harsh by her responses, but just like you said, it's understandable. Perhaps she might want you to realize your position by this matter. You are only friend to her, and that's it.
You need to get over it. Girl is not only one; There is no need to ask when will you meet your fated one as there is no real answer to it. But one thing I know is, just live your life till that happens.
Your life is your own, not decided by anybody, not affected by anybody; you decide your own life.
I will always be ready in time you ever need my support. I will try my best to cheer or at least, give you a proper suggestion.
Never give up in life, Bear.
I was in my final year of high school at the time. Being the guy that transferred in, I didn't really belong. I wasn't the social type so I almost always kept to myself and I frequently sat near the window just staring out to the sky while humming my favourite songs under my breath. She was one of the first girls to talk to me and I was kinda touched. I tried every chance I had to talk to her and we grew quite close in 2 months.
Then, during Valentines Day, I thought, "I should get her a rose as a Valentine present! I put it in her desk during lunch. I wonder if she'll get surprised?" That simple thought turned out to be a disaster. I put the rose on her desk right after everyone gone out for lunch and when I came back right as the bell rings, signalling the end of lunch, that same rose was on my table. All my classmates looked at me, she was averting her gaze with a look of disgust on her face.
I just blanked out. I just ran out of the classroom. And so a small seed of love was crushed before it was even planted.....
as for my opinion on the matter... i feel that she was a bit harsh... while your questions are a bit prying, they don't sound forceful to me. the first two got the worst response, but, i feel that they are the most "normal." by this i mean, any friend could be asking another friend how long they've been with their SO and why they didn't know about it.
you put a question mark after this:
i think it's maybe just missing a few words, because i know sometimes i do that. "i only choose to reply to messages when i feel like it; if i don't think it is important, i might not reply right way, and all my friends know this," is what i think she meant.
calling you stupid for asking if you're friends could either be as rude as it sounds, or she could be slightly teasing you. "of course we're friends, stupid," with a playful smile is what i can sort of imagine.
as a girl, when i try to put myself in her position, i come up with this: she is angry and seemingly frustrated with you because of the awkward position she feels she's in. you're friends, but you have feelings for her. she knows this, so she might not want to hurt you by talking about her boyfriend because she'd feel like maybe she's shoving it in your face. by asking her straight out about him, it puts her on the spot and sort of makes her hurt you, which if you're friends, is what she's probably been trying to avoid.
if her intention was to avoid hurting you, she should have told you. maybe in passing so that maybe you'd give up on her without the extra pain of having to confront her and feel led on. however, if her intention was to use you to ease her loneliness and kind of have you as a boyfriend without the commitments, then ... i don't think i'd want her as a friend, personally. S:
i know she means a lot to you, and you want her in your life even if it's strictly as a friend, but it may be better for you to keep your distance. not completely, but just keep her at a certain distance. on the other hand, it may be easier to just break off completely. and once more, maybe it will help your heart if you stay close. try to imagine what could make you happiest.
when it comes down to it, you know your own heart, and i trust your judgment and will always support you 504.27%. just don't keep your hopes up for this girl, please, it hurts to see you hurting as well. move on in a healthy way. you seem to always be thinking of others, do what you think will make you feel best. /hypocrite
take care, gambler. hope to talk to you soon. ;-; -bear hugs for the bear-
I think it's time to say goodbye to Snow.
If you can continue your friendship comfortably, then by all means continue. But this is not the girl for you.
There are so many other girls in the world that would love to have you, that will see the good person inside of you and mesh with you completely. It seems like you decided that this "Snow" person would be the one, but she doesn't see it the same. And so, the universe hasn't given her to you.
Good relationships happen when two people are on the same wavelength, their harmonies matching perfectly.
Don't spend your energy on someone who has a completely different harmony than yours. Instead, direct your energy towards attracting someone who is in sync with yourself, who will love you for you and everything that is you and nothing else. They will love you effortlessly and without force.
/new age guru crap, lol.
Again in short...
Snow is not for you. Maybe you are Summer guy. But if you stay buried in the Snow...you'll never find out...
Iknow it isnt much and I'm no person to give relationship advice.
I hope you find someone better.
Snow is not for you. Maybe you are Summer guy. But if you stay buried in the Snow...you'll never find out...
[font=verdana][color=green]This really tickled me. I'm not sure if it's cheesy or poetic, or even both at the same time. Love it.
But yeah, Gambler, it's just like the others have stated before me. It's time for you to get the shovel and clear the path to your heart of snow, or wait until you meet someone who can cause that snow to melt away in a smile.
My god. Now I'm doing it.
Thank you for all your respective replies.
At the moment, both Snow and I are still friends, I suppose. Most of my friends told me not to text or contact her, since I will lose whatever dignity I have left. However, being the soft-hearted bear that I am (and dignity does that matter much to me when it comes to matters of the heart), I texted her and she replied.
We did have a few casual text conversations, but she remains the person whom she is, replying only when she feels like it. I did attempt to ask her out as friends, but she gave the excuse that her boyfriend will not be happy.
Right now, I am slowly moving on. But if Snow were to ever want me someday, I will definitely be willing to accept her, provided circumstances permit me to do so...
Old - Jenkins wrote...
So it has come to that. I'm really sorry to hear it, Bear. To be honest, things you did ask to her via messages in second quote are a bit too forceful and over-familiar, especially in 1 and 2. I don't intend to blame you in this case, but you need to read the situation, your current relation, and her condition more before asking such personal questions.
From what you said, her smile and happiness are what you wish for, and if it's possible, you would prefer to be the guy beside her; may I assume that your first priority is the former ? For her happiness and smile ?
With that being said, I'd suggest you to pick the first choice,
Give up. "Someone better will enter my life", but when will "she" appear?
Giving up here doesn't necessarily mean that you have to disappear from her sight. Just treasure the sweet and bitter things you ever had with her as your memories. Don't ever think of the possibility of her to return your feeling one day; expect less, do more. Talk to her, play together with her, do exactly all the things you ever did with her as if nothing has happened. If she rejected you, then so be it; but she also mentioned (or at least heavily implied) that you are still her friend, isn't that what really matter considering your first priority ?
Be with her when she needs you, listen to her problems if she would ever share one with you, do what you think is necessary (in friendly-term) to gain more positive points from her, but like I said : expect less. "Do what a good friend would usually do" is personally, what I do consider the only thing you can do for now.
She might be a bit harsh by her responses, but just like you said, it's understandable. Perhaps she might want you to realize your position by this matter. You are only friend to her, and that's it.
You need to get over it. Girl is not only one; There is no need to ask when will you meet your fated one as there is no real answer to it. But one thing I know is, just live your life till that happens.
Your life is your own, not decided by anybody, not affected by anybody; you decide your own life.
I will always be ready in time you ever need my support. I will try my best to cheer or at least, give you a proper suggestion.
Never give up in life, Bear.
Damienthedevil wrote...
Well there are always other girls. Get over it. She was harsh in her reply and (sorry to say this man) she was one hell of a bitch to lead you on if she wasn't even going to consider you. I'm all for moving forwards. I was rejected harshly as well. Let me share with you my personal experience.I was in my final year of high school at the time. Being the guy that transferred in, I didn't really belong. I wasn't the social type so I almost always kept to myself and I frequently sat near the window just staring out to the sky while humming my favourite songs under my breath. She was one of the first girls to talk to me and I was kinda touched. I tried every chance I had to talk to her and we grew quite close in 2 months.
Then, during Valentines Day, I thought, "I should get her a rose as a Valentine present! I put it in her desk during lunch. I wonder if she'll get surprised?" That simple thought turned out to be a disaster. I put the rose on her desk right after everyone gone out for lunch and when I came back right as the bell rings, signalling the end of lunch, that same rose was on my table. All my classmates looked at me, she was averting her gaze with a look of disgust on her face.
I just blanked out. I just ran out of the classroom. And so a small seed of love was crushed before it was even planted.....
menolly-hime wrote...
[size=12]oh, gambler... -hugs the kind hearted, sincere bear- i'm terribly sorry to hear that things have only gotten worse. i do hope the sun shines brighter on you soon. :cas for my opinion on the matter... i feel that she was a bit harsh... while your questions are a bit prying, they don't sound forceful to me. the first two got the worst response, but, i feel that they are the most "normal." by this i mean, any friend could be asking another friend how long they've been with their SO and why they didn't know about it.
you put a question mark after this:
Snow wrote...
it is just proof that you don't understand me enough coz to everyone I know I only choose to reply messages when I feel like it. If I don't think it is important and all my friends know thisi think it's maybe just missing a few words, because i know sometimes i do that. "i only choose to reply to messages when i feel like it; if i don't think it is important, i might not reply right way, and all my friends know this," is what i think she meant.
calling you stupid for asking if you're friends could either be as rude as it sounds, or she could be slightly teasing you. "of course we're friends, stupid," with a playful smile is what i can sort of imagine.
as a girl, when i try to put myself in her position, i come up with this: she is angry and seemingly frustrated with you because of the awkward position she feels she's in. you're friends, but you have feelings for her. she knows this, so she might not want to hurt you by talking about her boyfriend because she'd feel like maybe she's shoving it in your face. by asking her straight out about him, it puts her on the spot and sort of makes her hurt you, which if you're friends, is what she's probably been trying to avoid.
if her intention was to avoid hurting you, she should have told you. maybe in passing so that maybe you'd give up on her without the extra pain of having to confront her and feel led on. however, if her intention was to use you to ease her loneliness and kind of have you as a boyfriend without the commitments, then ... i don't think i'd want her as a friend, personally. S:
i know she means a lot to you, and you want her in your life even if it's strictly as a friend, but it may be better for you to keep your distance. not completely, but just keep her at a certain distance. on the other hand, it may be easier to just break off completely. and once more, maybe it will help your heart if you stay close. try to imagine what could make you happiest.
when it comes down to it, you know your own heart, and i trust your judgment and will always support you 504.27%. just don't keep your hopes up for this girl, please, it hurts to see you hurting as well. move on in a healthy way. you seem to always be thinking of others, do what you think will make you feel best. /hypocrite
take care, gambler. hope to talk to you soon. ;-; -bear hugs for the bear-
Circe wrote...
Instead of a long, drawn-out answer, I will just say:I think it's time to say goodbye to Snow.
If you can continue your friendship comfortably, then by all means continue. But this is not the girl for you.
There are so many other girls in the world that would love to have you, that will see the good person inside of you and mesh with you completely. It seems like you decided that this "Snow" person would be the one, but she doesn't see it the same. And so, the universe hasn't given her to you.
Good relationships happen when two people are on the same wavelength, their harmonies matching perfectly.
Don't spend your energy on someone who has a completely different harmony than yours. Instead, direct your energy towards attracting someone who is in sync with yourself, who will love you for you and everything that is you and nothing else. They will love you effortlessly and without force.
/new age guru crap, lol.
Again in short...
Snow is not for you. Maybe you are Summer guy. But if you stay buried in the Snow...you'll never find out...
Melfice_1 wrote...
*hugles the GamBear*Iknow it isnt much and I'm no person to give relationship advice.
I hope you find someone better.
SamRavster wrote...
Circe wrote...
Again in short...Snow is not for you. Maybe you are Summer guy. But if you stay buried in the Snow...you'll never find out...
[font=verdana][color=green]This really tickled me. I'm not sure if it's cheesy or poetic, or even both at the same time. Love it.
But yeah, Gambler, it's just like the others have stated before me. It's time for you to get the shovel and clear the path to your heart of snow, or wait until you meet someone who can cause that snow to melt away in a smile.
My god. Now I'm doing it.
Thank you for all your respective replies.
At the moment, both Snow and I are still friends, I suppose. Most of my friends told me not to text or contact her, since I will lose whatever dignity I have left. However, being the soft-hearted bear that I am (and dignity does that matter much to me when it comes to matters of the heart), I texted her and she replied.
We did have a few casual text conversations, but she remains the person whom she is, replying only when she feels like it. I did attempt to ask her out as friends, but she gave the excuse that her boyfriend will not be happy.
Right now, I am slowly moving on. But if Snow were to ever want me someday, I will definitely be willing to accept her, provided circumstances permit me to do so...
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Dr Shaneman wrote...
Gambler wrote...
Finally back from my military training.How went it?
The first week was kinda relaxed. I was allowed to go home on certain days and I managed to obtain sufficient sleep. However, the last portion of my training was exhausting, to say the least. I only managed to get 2 hours of sleep and on top of that, deal with unreasonable officers, as well as settle the various documents...
Kinda glad that it is over, but then, work at office, my full-time job, has piled up too. T_T
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Gambler wrote...
Dr Shaneman wrote...
Gambler wrote...
Finally back from my military training.How went it?
The first week was kinda relaxed. I was allowed to go home on certain days and I managed to obtain sufficient sleep. However, the last portion of my training was exhausting, to say the least. I only managed to get 2 hours of sleep and on top of that, deal with unreasonable officers, as well as settle the various documents...
Kinda glad that it is over, but then, work at office, my full-time job, has piled up too. T_T
At least office work won't be as exhausting and sleep deprived.
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Finally back from my annual military training, so I guess the time is ripe for a new topic? Besides, I need to let go of the past as well...
After my military training stint, some of my campmates organised a clubbing-cum-drinking session. To tell the truth, I have never gone to a club and neither do I drink all that much alcohol... in fact, very little. However, not to be a spoil sport, I registered my attendance.
It was a brand new experience for a bear. The loud music, the dancing and the drinking. Some of the neighbouring clubbers were equally friendly too, striking up a conversation with myself. Unfortunately, after 7 glasses of Vodka (mixed with some raspberry or pineapple juice), and a glass of black liquor, I started to vomit.
Once in the club.
Once on my way out of it.
Once before I went to bed.
Another two more times when I woke up midway, especially after drinking water.
Am I considered drunk? I managed to remember all events clearly and I spoke coherently with my campmates. After this particular incident, I don't think I will be drinking alcohol for quite a while. ^_^;;
How about my fellow Fakku members? Have you people ever puked while drinking or have you gotten drunk on certain occasions?
After my military training stint, some of my campmates organised a clubbing-cum-drinking session. To tell the truth, I have never gone to a club and neither do I drink all that much alcohol... in fact, very little. However, not to be a spoil sport, I registered my attendance.
It was a brand new experience for a bear. The loud music, the dancing and the drinking. Some of the neighbouring clubbers were equally friendly too, striking up a conversation with myself. Unfortunately, after 7 glasses of Vodka (mixed with some raspberry or pineapple juice), and a glass of black liquor, I started to vomit.
Once in the club.
Once on my way out of it.
Once before I went to bed.
Another two more times when I woke up midway, especially after drinking water.
Am I considered drunk? I managed to remember all events clearly and I spoke coherently with my campmates. After this particular incident, I don't think I will be drinking alcohol for quite a while. ^_^;;
How about my fellow Fakku members? Have you people ever puked while drinking or have you gotten drunk on certain occasions?
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Room101
Waifu Collector
Yes, that can be considered as drunk.
In general, 7 shots of Vodka (even if diluted) will not result in greatest experience if you haven't drank much in your life. Vodka hits like a freight train, and there isn't really a way to get over it unless you've been drinking it for most of your life.
In which case, you would be Russian.
I don't think I had gotten drunk in my life so far...a little tipsy yes, but all-out drunk? No.
It kind of is connected to me not drinking much to begin with though, since I'm not as that strong to alcohol, I believe.
In general, 7 shots of Vodka (even if diluted) will not result in greatest experience if you haven't drank much in your life. Vodka hits like a freight train, and there isn't really a way to get over it unless you've been drinking it for most of your life.
In which case, you would be Russian.
I don't think I had gotten drunk in my life so far...a little tipsy yes, but all-out drunk? No.
It kind of is connected to me not drinking much to begin with though, since I'm not as that strong to alcohol, I believe.
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ME LIKEY THIS TOPIC!
never had Vodka but it's sure is a strong stuff.
so i can't comment much about the constant puking you're having but i never puked even after i got hammered.
well,considering my religion i'm only drinking with friends just for bonding and socializing so i rarely drunk.i only kept some limit to what i drink.
BUT! that doesn't mean i never getting hammered hard either.
1st experience:
when i'm still in japanese language school,one of our friend has a birthday and i decided to go together with my friends.my friends as in me,another indonesian,4 chinese,3 korean and 3 sweedish.
we were having fun in the karaoke,having some games like "who's the king" but i always ended up as the joker aka loser for always picking up bad cards(but not drunk yet though).and as the party got hyped up,i've forgotten to limit myself and pretty much heavily drunk because i started to cop a feel and grope the birthday girl.then when i went to the toilet and see my face got really red,i slapped myself for couple slaps then i sober again.lol.
2nd experience:
i was with my japanese buddy because it's a special day for him so we and his friends gathered around hitting izakaya,pubs and bar in shibuya and shinjuku till i passed out(more like can't remember the things after that).
when i woke up in the morning,i was in a crampy closed space wher it was really dark and something's hanging on me.when i reached the "wall" and tried to open it,it got opened and i fall to the floor on my face.after i rubbed my face due to the pain,i find myself i was inside my friend's closet in his apartment.then my friend found me then he said "what are you,Doraemon?lol".
3rd experience:
me and my friends are in the hot spring inn at autumn.we were drinking pretty much what we can find and what did we bring.i was just having a beer as usual but some korean dudes were dueling who's the toughest drinker in here and somehow we all got in it.so they were mixing a beer,sochu,jack daniels,japanese sake "oni killer" and other alcohol that i can't even remember into one large beer pint and we having it shots style.a korean guy drank 7 shots,sweedish drank 9 and i got till 7 too.then after that,i've started to grope nearby girls again.then after that,we played games then go to sleep in 4 amish.
conclusion:
puked,no.
got really drunk/hammered then grope/molest some girls,yes.
never had Vodka but it's sure is a strong stuff.
so i can't comment much about the constant puking you're having but i never puked even after i got hammered.
well,considering my religion i'm only drinking with friends just for bonding and socializing so i rarely drunk.i only kept some limit to what i drink.
BUT! that doesn't mean i never getting hammered hard either.
1st experience:
when i'm still in japanese language school,one of our friend has a birthday and i decided to go together with my friends.my friends as in me,another indonesian,4 chinese,3 korean and 3 sweedish.
we were having fun in the karaoke,having some games like "who's the king" but i always ended up as the joker aka loser for always picking up bad cards(but not drunk yet though).and as the party got hyped up,i've forgotten to limit myself and pretty much heavily drunk because i started to cop a feel and grope the birthday girl.then when i went to the toilet and see my face got really red,i slapped myself for couple slaps then i sober again.lol.
2nd experience:
i was with my japanese buddy because it's a special day for him so we and his friends gathered around hitting izakaya,pubs and bar in shibuya and shinjuku till i passed out(more like can't remember the things after that).
when i woke up in the morning,i was in a crampy closed space wher it was really dark and something's hanging on me.when i reached the "wall" and tried to open it,it got opened and i fall to the floor on my face.after i rubbed my face due to the pain,i find myself i was inside my friend's closet in his apartment.then my friend found me then he said "what are you,Doraemon?lol".
3rd experience:
me and my friends are in the hot spring inn at autumn.we were drinking pretty much what we can find and what did we bring.i was just having a beer as usual but some korean dudes were dueling who's the toughest drinker in here and somehow we all got in it.so they were mixing a beer,sochu,jack daniels,japanese sake "oni killer" and other alcohol that i can't even remember into one large beer pint and we having it shots style.a korean guy drank 7 shots,sweedish drank 9 and i got till 7 too.then after that,i've started to grope nearby girls again.then after that,we played games then go to sleep in 4 amish.
conclusion:
puked,no.
got really drunk/hammered then grope/molest some girls,yes.
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IIRC, not everyone blacks out when they get drunk. In fact, I know some people that remember EVERYTHING when they get drunk. This alone can make it hard to tell when you should actually stop drinking. I wish you luck in trying to figure that out, as when I get near being drunk, I turn all giddy and happy, so I kinda know when to stop (though I hardly ever drink anyways).
Or, this can be taken as you could have either gotten a stomach flu from earlier that day from something you at, or you were on the verge of getting alcohol poisoning... I hardly doubt that these are relevant though.
Or, this can be taken as you could have either gotten a stomach flu from earlier that day from something you at, or you were on the verge of getting alcohol poisoning... I hardly doubt that these are relevant though.
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I have only been drunk twice and only puked from it twice.
I don't see your actions as being a "drunk" because everyone who drinks ends up in that situation at least once.
I tend to just forget about them, as the two times I were drunk I never did anything particularly interesting.
I don't see your actions as being a "drunk" because everyone who drinks ends up in that situation at least once.
I tend to just forget about them, as the two times I were drunk I never did anything particularly interesting.
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It has been some time since I last up!dated the sub-topic in this thread of mine, but better late than never. ;)
Today, we shall discuss interviews, mainly because I suspect I may be involved in some myself over the next couple of weeks, perhaps as an interviewee. If so, wish me luck! I am sure most of my fellow Fakku members have undergone some interviews, be it for work or education.
For those who attend interviews on a regular basis, I believe the anxiousness will fade over time, but I also understand that a first-time interviewee may find the occasion daunting, even if one is well-prepared.
How did you cope with your respective interviews? What was you most memorable experience?
Feel free to share your tales with us!
Today, we shall discuss interviews, mainly because I suspect I may be involved in some myself over the next couple of weeks, perhaps as an interviewee. If so, wish me luck! I am sure most of my fellow Fakku members have undergone some interviews, be it for work or education.
For those who attend interviews on a regular basis, I believe the anxiousness will fade over time, but I also understand that a first-time interviewee may find the occasion daunting, even if one is well-prepared.
How did you cope with your respective interviews? What was you most memorable experience?
Feel free to share your tales with us!
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Cinia Pacifica
Ojou-sama Writer
I've never had any, but they sound like a lot of fun... but I bet they are stressful.
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I flipping hate interviews. I can never get over my nervousness, especially when I had to do an interview for a reactor operator. Damn scariest one of my life.
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Only had one interview and... I didn't hate it, but it was a bit nerve-racking.
It didn't last long so not mch to tell about it.
It didn't last long so not mch to tell about it.
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My first interview for a job, it just went down the drain.
i need to boost my confidence up, it felt more like an interrogation.
What's are your qualifications, what is your field of expertise,have you handled this?
I was sweating like a pig back then
i need to boost my confidence up, it felt more like an interrogation.
What's are your qualifications, what is your field of expertise,have you handled this?
I was sweating like a pig back then
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Ooo, perfect topic :D
I just had one recently and hopefully more will come along soon~
I've had a couple of interviews over my life though. I always have butterflies, but honestly once I get in there I totally relax and just be myself. If you're confident you can do that job well, that's really all you need.
Well, it helps if you're a good bullshitter and good at gauging the atmosphere of the interview. Thinking of it from the HR perspective, they are probably interviewing tons of qualified people, so they are looking for a good fit in personality, what makes you stand out from the rest, and a good set of skills you can bring to the table. So just bring your bag of tricks to the table and be open and honest...and clever.
You don't want to get a job based on you being fake and saying you have skills you don't, because you'd most likely be miserable and surrounded with co-workers who don't mesh with you or be in trouble when it turns out you...don't speak Finnish or whatever you said, lol.
If the interview doesn't go well, don't feel discouraged. It may have been a bad fit for you personality-wise and it's probably a blessing that things didn't work out.
It's a place you'll most likely spend a lot of hours so the interview is a great place for you to figure out if you even want to work there.
I think a lot of people get caught up in "I NEED A JOB", instead of "Will this job be right for me?" So make sure you think about it from all the angles, and not just in desperation : )
I remember a terrible interview where I kept accidently slamming the door trying to get in...LMAO!! It was the middle of summer and I stupidly walked to the office so I was all sweaty. The first lady I saw was nice, but then I went to meet her boss and he was a total asshole. He even had the nerve to ask if I had kids or "other responsibilities" that had to take care of in my personal life. I'm pretty sure that breaks every HR rule ever, lol. Anyway, I left the place feeling so grossed out by the guy. And as luck would have it, I didn't get the job and ended up getting a job at a different company about 2 weeks later. Thank goodness, I probably would've punched that guy at some point if I had worked there!
Lol, for the TL;DR folks: Be confident, be yourself, and make sure the job is a good fit for you.
I just had one recently and hopefully more will come along soon~
I've had a couple of interviews over my life though. I always have butterflies, but honestly once I get in there I totally relax and just be myself. If you're confident you can do that job well, that's really all you need.
Well, it helps if you're a good bullshitter and good at gauging the atmosphere of the interview. Thinking of it from the HR perspective, they are probably interviewing tons of qualified people, so they are looking for a good fit in personality, what makes you stand out from the rest, and a good set of skills you can bring to the table. So just bring your bag of tricks to the table and be open and honest...and clever.
You don't want to get a job based on you being fake and saying you have skills you don't, because you'd most likely be miserable and surrounded with co-workers who don't mesh with you or be in trouble when it turns out you...don't speak Finnish or whatever you said, lol.
If the interview doesn't go well, don't feel discouraged. It may have been a bad fit for you personality-wise and it's probably a blessing that things didn't work out.
It's a place you'll most likely spend a lot of hours so the interview is a great place for you to figure out if you even want to work there.
I think a lot of people get caught up in "I NEED A JOB", instead of "Will this job be right for me?" So make sure you think about it from all the angles, and not just in desperation : )
I remember a terrible interview where I kept accidently slamming the door trying to get in...LMAO!! It was the middle of summer and I stupidly walked to the office so I was all sweaty. The first lady I saw was nice, but then I went to meet her boss and he was a total asshole. He even had the nerve to ask if I had kids or "other responsibilities" that had to take care of in my personal life. I'm pretty sure that breaks every HR rule ever, lol. Anyway, I left the place feeling so grossed out by the guy. And as luck would have it, I didn't get the job and ended up getting a job at a different company about 2 weeks later. Thank goodness, I probably would've punched that guy at some point if I had worked there!
Lol, for the TL;DR folks: Be confident, be yourself, and make sure the job is a good fit for you.
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Looky-tan
Got Megane?
Interviews... I hate them with a passion!
Honestly yes I have reasons to hate them. They always(in my cases) seem to ask you character questions, why you would fit the job, why should they pick you etc. Then once you're *cough* lucky *cough* enough to get the job... all that stuff means shit. You're treated like shit, expected to do all the work yourself or even pick up the slack your co-workers can't finish even though its their job and they're not getting in trouble for it. Yes this is also a rant about how interviews mean shit, because none of it matters once you have the job.
Every job I've ever had so far (including current: 5) everything they asked me about in the interview meant nothing, or everything I asked about pertaining to the job, the answers I received, didn't hold once on the job.
I did have an interview, about almost a year ago. Obviously I didn't get the job, but I knew that half way into the interview. I was applying at a company my friend worked at, and three people were interviewing me... yes three, and man did I feel the pressure there. Why did I know I failed? Simple, the interview started with two people, they had asked me about myself already, then when the third person came in(late btw it wasn't planned for him to be late) they asked me to talk about myself again... which honestly I dislike having to repeat myself at interviews because you can also get caught giving different answers to the same question. So jokingly I ask them, that they already know(pointing toward the two) and asking if they would care to fill him in on my background. Immediately one of them went, "We're the ones asking the questions." Well fuck this then, I thought. If they're gonna be such jerks about it I am glad I am not working here. My friend later told me they did like me, but one of them didn't like something I said, my guess is it was that one person. Later who my friend said is a real bitch.
TL;DR
Interviews mean shit! Just suck it up and be a kiss ass during them, since 90% of the time it won't matter once you actually get the job.
Prove me otherwise if you think I am wrong.
Honestly yes I have reasons to hate them. They always(in my cases) seem to ask you character questions, why you would fit the job, why should they pick you etc. Then once you're *cough* lucky *cough* enough to get the job... all that stuff means shit. You're treated like shit, expected to do all the work yourself or even pick up the slack your co-workers can't finish even though its their job and they're not getting in trouble for it. Yes this is also a rant about how interviews mean shit, because none of it matters once you have the job.
Every job I've ever had so far (including current: 5) everything they asked me about in the interview meant nothing, or everything I asked about pertaining to the job, the answers I received, didn't hold once on the job.
I did have an interview, about almost a year ago. Obviously I didn't get the job, but I knew that half way into the interview. I was applying at a company my friend worked at, and three people were interviewing me... yes three, and man did I feel the pressure there. Why did I know I failed? Simple, the interview started with two people, they had asked me about myself already, then when the third person came in(late btw it wasn't planned for him to be late) they asked me to talk about myself again... which honestly I dislike having to repeat myself at interviews because you can also get caught giving different answers to the same question. So jokingly I ask them, that they already know(pointing toward the two) and asking if they would care to fill him in on my background. Immediately one of them went, "We're the ones asking the questions." Well fuck this then, I thought. If they're gonna be such jerks about it I am glad I am not working here. My friend later told me they did like me, but one of them didn't like something I said, my guess is it was that one person. Later who my friend said is a real bitch.
TL;DR
Interviews mean shit! Just suck it up and be a kiss ass during them, since 90% of the time it won't matter once you actually get the job.
Prove me otherwise if you think I am wrong.
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I love my job.
The interviews (if there are any) usually consist of-
Me: "Got some work?"
Boss-man: "Yup. Got your gear?"
Me: "Yup."
Boss-man: "Got a job."
The interviews (if there are any) usually consist of-
Me: "Got some work?"
Boss-man: "Yup. Got your gear?"
Me: "Yup."
Boss-man: "Got a job."
