Your own insecurities.

I'd like you to list some things. Things you don't like about yourself. Things that you think other people might be judging you for. Things about you that make you feel nervous when your out in public.

I want you to list your insecurities. Here are a few of mine

Small boobs. A cup. I want them a bit bigger but nobody I know likes the idea of me getting implants to make them size B at least.
And though I hate this about myself I will mention it here. I am short. Not quite a midget I'd say but still pretty short compared to my friends. I haven't grown an inch since I was about 15 years old. Apparently most women stop growing at about 16-17 years of age. Well I guess my stop was a year early, but the point is if like to be at least 3 inches taller. That would just be tall enough where I'm still the shortest person in the group, but only by an inch.

Now combine the two. I'm 21 years old and I still look like I should be finishing high school! I've even had teenagers hit on me wanting a date before. I do think I look a bit too young for my age, and while that helps make me cute, it has sometimes led to people treating me less of a young adult and more of a high schooler.

So then, I listed mine. What are some things you feel insecure about? Why?
Have you found a way of dealing with them? For me, all I can really do is act my age out in public despite people's first impressions.

Being a big guy for a majority of my life, that used to be a huge insecurity for me. I'm sure it wouldn't have been as much of an issue as it was if elementary/middle school kids weren't such assholes, but I have grown much more confidence over the last few years and I've been working on slimming down some, so I guess I'm trying to fix that.

Besides that, I can't really think of anything else that bothers me enough to mention. I'm always told that my teeth are incredible small for my mouth, but I couldn't care less about that, tbh.

Plenty of emotional/psychological issues, but this seems to be the wrong thread so I'll spare you the boredom.

One thing I was insecure about was my physical appearance: for all my life I've been very tall and very thin - so thin and pale in fact that I looked sickly, and I actually was sickly according to doctors. It was frustrating to say the least, and I envied my friends a lot, since I felt they were all stronger or generally better than me.

It's a good thing I started working out to tough up a bit, and now I'm one meter ninety tall and weight seventy or so kilos. Still tall and thin, but much, much better than before.

Not achieving what I wanted when I am about to turn 27. Still stuck in the job I been doing and really want something more.

Lack of intelligence/people expecting too much of me. Most people take me as smart and then expect me to achieve highly in life. Not going to happen, I'm distinctly average and just got lucky in previous exams in my school career. Makes me really insecure knowing how stupid I really am especially in comparison to my girlfriend (Going to Oxford University) and my best friend (Also going to a similarly well-known University).

My name. Got given it because my Dad wanted a boy, so he gave me a masculine name with a slight twist on it to make it sound feminine.

My social anxiety, I find it really difficult to talk to new people and have once found myself almost throwing up from fear of someone talking to me. Better than I used to be but I know one day it'll screw me over (e.g an interview).

Finally my bi-polar disorder. I'm really insecure/afraid of it since I might hurt my friends and come off as a complete bitch.

Just to list a few.

I live in a shit place in terms of money making. Sure, you can find a job here no problem, but it will be nearly impossible to actually survive with most salaries, because the cost of living in my city is ABSOLUTELY INSANE, and salaries for most jobs are very low.

I'm insecure about my sexual orientation, mental illness and IQ. I'm asexual and that was the main reason why I got sent to the psychiatric ward. I suspect the medicine I took made me permanently dependent on them. I say this because when I got off them volountarily, my condition was worse than when I first came in. Luckily my family don't treat me differently after I got diagnosed. However, I get the occasional "are you taking your meds" whenever my behavior isn't to their liking. Aside from the internet, I'm cautious about disclosing my mental illness to strangers. My IQ isn't low, but I wish it was higher than it is. I'm at a disadvantage whenever I try to do math or follow complex concepts during a debate. My social skills are very poor since I'm not much of a talker. I'm better at conveying my thoughts through writing than speech. People always ask me why I'm still single, and they just don't understand or believe it when I tell them I'm asexual. So I just say I'm happy being single. I'm not where I want to be in life due to my procrastination during college. I dropped out during my senior year because I felt it was pointless to finish, as I had doubts about my career choice. I also didn't have the grades for grad school. So getting a good job in that field would be slim with just a bachelor's degree. I found what I want to do, but I'm in debt. I doubt it would've worked out anyway since it's math intensive and I suck at that subject. I don't know what else to do with my life so I'm stuck at a low paying job. I barely get by with my salary and disability checks.

Gah! I have too many to list! But, I have one that is far greater than others. I can't walk properly.

I look completely normal, and all my family members were normal. However, ever since I was very little, I had extremely low stamina. My heart rate would go through the roof and start breathing heavily as if I sprinted a marathon after a slow paced 5 minute walk. My family and I have spent thousands upon thousands of dollars to figure out what is causing this, and after 18 years of searching we still don't know what's causing it nor how it can be fixed.

Now, I actually don't mind the fact that I have this problem. I prefer playing indoor and there are many people in this world that have it much worse than me. People that were born without limbs, or people that had accident and lost their ability to move their legs to name a few examples. What makes me insecure is the people that judge me. At least the people on wheelchair has a logical explanation as to why they can't walk. On the other hand, I have piles of doctor's diagnosis saying that there is nothing wrong with my body, and a completely normal looking body on top of that.

This makes me afraid of meeting new people and trying out new things. If I get a friend, girlfriend, or new job, how and what am I supposed to tell to the new people that I meet? I can explain my condition, but after a while it gets exhausting. Even if they fully understand my situation, I will still miss out on a ton of things. Finally, if they end up judging me, which unfortunately is the most common scenario from what I have experienced, I feel worse and worse.

[color=#a510f5]I'm bad at talking with others, too afraid of what negative results I would get. And having seen how words change meanings, I think quite a bit on how I'm going to say things.
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And my inner discussion on how to approach things is still continuing, I want to help friends, but don't know how.
I want to meet "that person" but doubt myself on validity(is it real? am I just confusing things?), self-worth, approach...
And I assumed myself as homo-romantic a few months ago, moar confusion to the list.

My fear of being over-valued. I try to not think badly of myself, but happens sometimes of people seeing me in a way higher light...
Although there are moments when I feel like punching someone for acting like I'm not good enough. Both sides are annoying!
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Im mostly insecure about my personality, i often take jokes to far, and hurt or offend people, and i always argue, even if theirs nothing to really fight about. Both of these traits make it hard for me to be with other people without constantly being on guard.

As an extroverted person, it seems odd that I'm insecure about not having friends. But the fact is I don't have any close friends. Friends come and go yet I can't seem to get close to anybody aside from my family.

I also feel like people only really like me because there's no reason to dislike me. This has made me focus a lot on my career prospects so it feels like there's a light at the end of the tunnel.

I think too much. That's what's killing me.

I have problems talking to people in person that i just meet and because of this it becomes very hard for me to meet new people, (the internet is a bit easier)

I've been ill for 6 and a half years and because of that i've become really weak and constantly look a mess, so i've had quite a lot of insecurities of my looks and body.

Lastly is the factor that i'm 25 and still a virgin and not been able to start my dream job i've wanted to do for so many years...

I'm very insecure about myself. Mainly my mental wellness as well as my relationship wellness.

I've come to a point in my life in which I feel like I don't know what to do to move forward. I don't like my job as much as I used to, but at the same time, I don't know if I want to pursue something else. It's easy to quit something and start a new thing, but throughout my life, I do find that I rarely finish what I start. I know it's a really bad habit of mine, but at the same time, I always find myself in the perpetual loop of trying to fix it, just to have it blow up in my face, and start the loop all over again. I just really find it extremely difficult to see ahead because I'm all wishy-washy about myself.

I'm also very insecure about getting into an relationship. I've dated only one girl throughout my entire life, and that only lasted 6 months. I'm very willing to find someone special, but at the same time, I am very shy when it comes to trying to get out there. My confidence level is just isn't there, and I feel like that hinders my ability to be a little more outgoing in finding a good relationship.

With all this said, I'm just tired of me being insecure about these things, and I want to change. I find it hard for me to change though due to me dreading the loop that I've always find myself in. The loop that always hinders me in changing for the better. If I could find a way to get out of said loop, I would do it in a heart-beat, but I'm not sure how.

One of my biggest insecurity's are my hands and feet. I'm a man and my hands are smaller than most middle schoolers and most girls i meet, I'm a guy by the way. And my feet are the same.

for all the people who are here, posting their own insecurities, i have to say this. You have two choices, to either keep hiding, and covering it, or you could accept it, and use it as your own shield, your own advantage. There are many things that we cannot change in this life either that is physical or mental. we must accept it as our own personality, as the thing that differs us from the others, or we use it to gain what we want. I, myself, have a bad habit of judging people on the contrary of what they said or what others say about them. This had led to the lost of friends, and the hateful gazes they gave me. But i did not care. I used it to see whatever anyone is hiding, to be able to gaze though the shade that is of our own biased opinions. Anything can be used to help you, even if its your worst. Be proud of yourselves, i say, and accept who you are, and what you are given. Then, you can finally see the beauty of life itself

Low Academic Grades. Normally I wouldn't be insecure of this but what's making me insecure is my family's expectation of me. It's not that I'd want to brag, but from the IQ Test that my school conducted, it turned out I had an IQ of 124 (which is apparently superior). Once my family found out, I've been subjected to constant pressure to "use my brain's potential to the fullest by studying more and getting high grades." But, honestly, for some reason, no matter how much I study I can't pull my grades up, which makes me more subject to pressure.

Introversion. Pretty self-explanatory. I can't even count the times wherein my introversion prevented me from meeting new people, taking favorable opportunities, etc. Though I guess I can thank my evasion of social interaction for leading me to my self-exposure to the world of anime and gaming.

Lastly, I guess would be how I treat people. I guess staying at the side lines too much made me more of a critical person. Whenever I meet people or people start talking to me, I always heavily criticize them before deciding how to deal with them. I'm really just insensitive to people I guess. I don't know whenever I'm being too blunt or overboard with my insults (which happens a lot apparently) and I have no idea how to fix these situations when they happen, which often leads to broken relationships, some of which until now haven't been fixed.

This pretty much sums up my insecurities I guess. I've tried what I could to fix them, but I guess I'm not trying hard enough since I've barely made any significant changes in my life with respect to these insecurities.

That I am a failure, but then I read the emails I get from my mom on a monthly basis of how I am a failure & how disgusting I am or how shes ashamed to say i am her son. I try and ignore it, but when it comes from family your always left in bitter doubt because of your relation to them and the sense of betrayal from a person that was such a large roll in your life.

For me, my man boobs and belly fat. i wear baggy clothes to cover up obviously. There isn't a lot I don't like about myself, but the extra fat is really one of them.

Introvert + overly self-conscious. It's impossible for me to NOT give a fuck about what other people think about me.
It's making my shitty social life even shittier. People think I'm an alright guy, but I don't know how long I can keep this up.