Your own insecurities.

Oh sweet lord, the fear of being wrong. Or just doing something and screwing up.

I can't say exactly what part of it breed that fear, maybe my dad, maybe the fundmentalist church that I was raised up by. Either way I have been fighting this fear for years and still have a long way to go.

It's tough. People always tell you that the way to get over it is by making mistakes, but that's the exact freakin' thing that you don't want to do. I can tell you that, eventually, it does get better. All it usually takes is finding people that you feel comfortable making mistakes in front of, not just going out and fucking up. The latter was the advice I got offered, and it sucked. The former-- finding friends-- was pretty helpful, and so that is the granule of wisdom I shall offer to you this evening.

My memory, I often agree to stuff just to forget it later. I can remember what I read and learn but when it comes to a verbal promise, chores, or even names of my friends (at times) I have a tendency to forget.

Not to be creepy but a lot of guys like girls with smaller busts (if that makes you feel slightly better).

In terms of myself my biggest insecurity would have to be how I am often driven and influenced much more by my emotions than the norm.

Have you tried just carrying around a small pocket notepad? I did that for a while when I was having the same problem. People don't think it's weird-- if anything, I actually got a few nods of approval for it.

[size=10][color=red]I'm fat, have a lot of mental problems and am sensitive.
This is why I can't make irl friends.[/color][/h]

Bah although being fat is generally considered a - point, it is not as much as one would think. Two of my friend are fat as you would say, and as far I am concerned they have plenty of friends which is greatly contributed by their personality, being very outgoing, which I enjoy being with them quite a lot and their "fat" make me wana cuddle them.

Well mental problem is a hindrance but is not excuse to back down as I got a few here and there myself, but being sensitive or shyness in my case is understandable since it is difficult to feel otherwise. Mental problem doesn't make it hard to make friend, it because you feel so insecure about them making you much less willing to talk that is the issue. They will make you act off at time but it is mostly how much you engage with someone that they become friends. People in general will be understanding if you behave oddly at time and if not, well they are asses and should be avoided like the plague cause they probably act that way with the majority. Welp not like this can change 180 just with a few words, I know cause it took a pretty bad depression and good friends taking step in helping me to mature.




My Insecurities is how I have so little drive to do anything, the dampen sense of achievement which make feel very hollow inside. I wonder quite often why very little people engage conversation with me at first, instead of having to always be the one to start it off.

I think my biggest insecurity is that no woman will ever amount to my standards, because my mother raised my to be a king, and so far i've found no queen.

Hmm I suppose one would be my age at the moment due to my current status both socially and economically. I am currently 23 soon to be 24.

I am about to graduate college but I have a high goal for grad school and am unsure if I'll get in due to competition, my inner pessimist wants to bet on probably not. Socially, I have plenty of friends of all types but I simply have not met anybody special to me at all. No girlfriend to speak of yet, can't even really say I've held the hand of a girl much less anything else. Body wise I guess only some lingering insecurity about the size of my manhood which I know is below average. Honestly, I know it shouldn't matter since motion in the ocean and I've done probably a bit too much research to know it really doesn't matter lol. Other than that I'm pretty fine. Most things I cannot change about myself and I honestly wouldn't because then I wouldn't be me.

These things come and go but for the most part I'm actually more confident in myself than I have ever typically been which is good since I used to have long list of insecurities that I mostly worked out.

I have TINY hands for a man, yet everything else is roughly as it should be for a guy my size, it really bothers me. On top of that? My name was a big one back when I was hopping between English/German speaking schools, I was ostracised in one or two because I 'didn't belong there' for either being a Nazi in their eyes or pretending to be German when I clearly had an English name, all childish stuff but at the time it really got to me.

I'm incredibly judgmental of strangers, which only fuels my own insecurity that other people are constantly judging me in return, which only makes me judge them more for judging me. Hypocrisy is a wonderful thing, right?

Something I only became insecure about until it was very specifically pointed out to me; I'm almost never without a pair of headphones or earphones on. There's a kind of security blanket aspect to it that makes me feel almost naked if i haven't got something to listen to, and people often don't try to engage me in conversation because I'm giving off the impression that I don't want anyone bothering me.

Love handles man love handles. I lift and do cardio and still the love handles remain... It sux

You are not alone, and I am glad I am not alone either lol.

My insecurities huh?

Well for starters, I'm really insecure about my height. I'm 1.68m or so, that's pretty small for a guy. Another thing is the fact that I am afraid that I will lose my friends when I'm going to study. I'm still a high schooler, I have a big group of friends and I'm not really close with anyone in it. I'm also a bit insecure about my body, I won't show it easily because I don't like it that much. I wish I had a flat belly but unfortunately I don't :C. Another thing that's bothering me is that I half-ass a lot of things. When I'm doing something, I quit halfway most of the times because I am either bored of it or demotivated. Something else that I am insecure about is my experience with girls. I really don't know what to talk about with them and when I'm texting with them on my phone, I'm always the one who's leading the conversation and keeping it up. Hope for everyone else that their problems/insecurities will become better soon :)

Wish I could do something about my height though. :C

On my head I have two swirls instead of one, so my hair grows in weird ways.

Penis size of course, =D. Eh what's a human without insecurities? Probably not many people, but hopefully I won't let them consume my relationships with people. That being said, I was always overly competitive when I was with my friend. As life goes i'll have to actively work on my insecurities and come t terms that, I'm just human. Again not much to say, don't want to get too personal.

Lack of friends and social ineptness in general.
Explosive anger over little shit.
I feel like I'm not good at anything and never will be good at anything.
I've never been in a relationship.
I always assume people think I'm a moron (which might have something to do with my inability to make friends)
I don't know what I want to do with the rest of my life and feel pressured to figure something out.
I feel like a burden to my family.

At one point in my school career, I was revered as the smartest person in my class. However, my small little world was soon invaded by people as intelligent as me, and even smarter. Soon, I was being outranked in critical thinking, problem solving, mathematics, and other subjects by my peers. Part of me wanted to progress even higher, but then, I soon realized that this was stressful. Also, with my discovery of new-found fun of the Internet, one could easily waste good time studying by, going on Fakku, for example. I soon lowered my standards of a "good" grade for a class should be. At one point, I never accepted anything lower than a 90. Now, I am happy to get 10 points lower than the former. I have a shitty time with stress. Now I am less than two years away from college, and I have mediocre hopes of getting accepted into a decent college or university. I have taken to being unproductive on the Internet to escape stress, which will lead to my ultimate demise. The worst part is I am completely aware of all of these happenings, and I have done little to fix my problem.

I also believe that some of my friends don't actually like me. I tell the funny joke every once in a while, but I think my overall personality does not mix with the people I once knew, or I think I knew. I get this weird vibe from some friends, an unpleasant aura that dis invites me. I try to ignore it, but I feel terrorized by such an emotion.

I also feel like my thin demeanor leads to stares everywhere I go. I am 5'10" (177.8 cm), but I am no more that 120 lb (54 kg). I have a very high metabolism, so even if I try to gain any type of fat, it proves to be futile. I am currently working to increase my muscle mass so I don't look like a stick with human skin.

*Sigh*...Well, now part of that load is off my back.

I'm not the best choice when it comes to social skills. However I'm very fluid with close friends.

My sleepless night have made me feel frustrated about a lot of things since when I'm left alone in darkness I think - overthink things. and what is more normal than overthinking things about how much of a failure you are in life?

Like all people I have a lot of insecurities. Some I prefer not to talk about and work on myself and those I'm just too scared of letting go, because what if?

I'm a very negative and pessimistic person, I don't always give impression of one, but I am.
I don't know why but I like to load and bury myself in work and things to the intent of overworking and stressing myself out because I have OCD.
I'm not very confident in anything, be it skills, talents, brain or appearance (especially build). Which also make it hard for me to trust people and receiving compliments. I don't like to open up, and I don't like to have regrets.
I hate to take decisions and if I could I would probably prefer living a life taking as few decisions as possible.
I feel like my mental and emotional state is hanging on a thin thread that can break anytime. I'm overly emotional and mentally weak. I let myself influence by others too easily.
I'm too blunt, honest and overly exicted/fired up. I wonder if people get tired of it or tired of me. If they start to think it is annoying.

Well most of these are probably pretty normal and common and something you can work on. Thing is I know the answer to them all but I'm not sure I can let go.
I hope you guys know the answer to your own insecurities too and are willing to take the first step toward change or improving if you are unsatisfied with how things are. If not you will just stay the way you are and probably end up in a similar insecure self pitying state as myself. It only take the first small step toward change, it is hard but never too late! Just don't give up and move at your own pace. Good luck ❤